Why do we think that compromise is a bad thing?
I’m not talking about current events – though I could be.
Nope, I’m just thinking about naming. We tend to hear “compromise” as “sacrifice” or “defeat.” But when it comes to naming children, compromise signals that we’re willing to consider other perspectives. That we can respect the wishes of our loved ones. That we acknowledge the impossibility of predicting the future, even as we prepare for the best possible one.
Compromise means seeing ourselves as part of a bigger story, rather than the star.
Actually, wait. I think I am talking about life in general.
Back to babies.
You’ll hear women laughingly say, “Hey, if he had to carry this baby for nine months, then he could choose the name.” I get it. I mean – I totally, swollen-ankles and sleepless-nights and crushing-postpartum-depression get it. Growing a little human is a big deal.
And yet, none of us intend to go it alone. We’re all part of our communities, and we all draw strength from our friends and loved ones. When there’s another parent in the picture, no question that person is absolutely vital to our child’s well-being.
So why wouldn’t we assume that choosing our child’s name is a shared project? And that, difficult as it can be, compromise can make for the best possible choice?
I’m curious: did you compromise when naming your child? Do you think it made for a better name? Or is naming one of those moments when you should dig in your heels?
- Remember this family of bold baby names – three boys followed by sextuplets? Now they’re getting a TLC documentary. So will we meet more children named Blu, Layke, Tag, Rawlings, Rayne, Rivers, Saylor, Wales, and Bridge?
- Get this: in Eindhoven, the fifth-largest city in the Netherlands, Dex ties James for the #1 name. The Dutch do love those short names, with single-syllable charmers like Finn, Max, Bram, and Sem among the most popular choices.
- Now this is interesting … remember when we were talking about Kylie’s daughter Stormi, and the scandal involving another Stormy that broke just before we got the birth announcement? Could it be that Kylie couldn’t possibly change her daughter’s name … because there was already a new cosmetics collection in the works?
- How fun! What would you name an extra March sister? Or any of these famous literary sisters?
- Speaking of siblings, here are all the pairs of twins who have played the role of Judith on The Walking Dead. Lots of spoilers for the series, though, so tread lightly …
- Big, bold word names are nothing new, and here’s proof.
- Some fascinating finds from medieval Italy. Obscure, and mostly unwearable – except wouldn’t Corelia be kind of gorgeous?
- Ten great literary middles. Because somebody really should use Thoreau in the middle spot.
- Some of these 1890s baby names would wear well in 2018.
- One of the many reasons I love Living with Kids: the names!
That’s all for now. As always, thanks for reading – and have a great week!