Middle names can transform a traditional first, honor a loved one, recognize your heritage, celebrate an important part of your life.
With so much power and appeal, why not go big with middle names?
Like the mighty Oreo, the filling in the middle can make all the difference.
For some parents, it is as easy as using a family name, whether it’s as classic as James or as unexpected Algernon.
But there’s a certain magic to big – BIG – middles. Choices like Algernon and Luscinia are the Double Stufs of cookie-dom, with more than you expect awaiting.
They’re a delight to name enthusiasts, but going big can be useful for lots of reasons.
If you’re consider a daring middle, here are seven reasons to go for it!
A NAME THAT FEELS OVERWHELMING AS A FIRST CAN MAKE A PERFECT MIDDLE
Fretting that your daughter will dislike answering to Scheherazade? Doubtful that anyone will ever spell Aloysius correctly? Concerned that everyone will shorten Elsinore to Ellie, no matter what your preferences may be?
A name that you find extravagant – or even outlandish – might be easier to wear as a middle.
Paired with a more mainstream first, these daring middles make a for a full name that’s unforgettable.
ADVENTUROUS MIDDLES SPARK UP A MORE CONVENTIONAL FIRST
Which one is more memorable: Ava Grace or Ava Berlin? William David or William Deveraux?
There’s nothing wrong with the first two combinations, but if you’re using a fairly common given name, a bigger, more daring middle can make the whole name more interesting.
It’s doubly true if your surname is common. Betcha there are dozens of boys named Mason Brown. But Mason Obadiah Brown, Mason Lazarus Brown, Mason Swift Brown, Mason Noble Brown, Mason Augustus Brown – any of those is less likely to repeat.
BOLD MIDDLE NAMES ALLOW FOR COMPROMISE
You love Caradoc. He’s all about James.
One feels rare and maybe a little cumbersome. The other, familiar and often-heard. But together, James Caradoc is perfection.
Or maybe you’re the only grandchild in your generation with a hope of having a daughter, and your entire family is really hoping you’ll pass down family name Edwina, and you’d like to oblige. But Sloane Edwina, Maren Edwina, or even Elena Edwina allows for a mix of tradition and style.
If there’s pressure to use a name that doesn’t quite suit, the middle makes a convenient hiding spot.
Even if the rhythm isn’t exactly perfect, this approach still works. After all, that’s the textbook definition of a compromise, right?
IT MAKES A STYLE STATEMENT
Are you drawn to names like Bluebell or Steadfast or Keats, but suspect they’re just too out-there?
There’s nothing wrong with choosing unusual names. But you know your family best. If strike you as over-the-top, then tuck him in the middle spot. Parker Atlas and Paloma might be exactly the right combinations. The middle names add an extra oomph, something that surprises, but doesn’t need to be constantly explained.
IT TURNS YOUR CHILD’S NAME INTO A STORY
Family names, honor names, place names with meaning, literary favorites, and more all work surprisingly well in the middle.
Maybe it’s Thackeray in honor of your favorite poet or Majorca for your honeymoon destination. A marine biologist’s child might be Ocean. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt chose Shiloh Nouvel, the middle name inspired by an architect admired by Brad.
There’s a story there, and it could be quite the fun one to tell – especially because, unlike a first name, you only have to tell the middle name story some of the time.
IT COULD COME IN HANDY
While plenty of us never use our middles, many a famous writer, artist, or other talented person is known by their middle exclusively. Maxfield Parrish was born Frederick Maxfield Parrish. Dashiell Hammett’s given name was Samuel. In both cases, their middles were family names.
Yes, there are families of artists and musicians. (Think of Rufus Wainwright, son of Loudon, brother to Martha, uncle to Arcangelo, and father to Viva. Musical talent and a penchant for off-beat names must run in their blood.) But there are also accountants and dentists who are astonished that their children grow up to be sculptors and dancers and such.
A daring middle is a ready-made stage name, a possible alternate identity if your Jane feels like more of a Hermione.
A DISTINCTIVE FIRST IS TOUGH, BUT A DISTINCTIVE FIRST-MIDDLE IS ACCESSIBLE TO EVERYONE
We want so much from our children’s names nowadays. Easy to say and spell, a nice balance of standing out and fitting in, meaningful but not burdensome … everyone’s list is different, but many of us have lists that are extensive, and hard to satisfy.
Thinking about your child’s full name – first, middle, and maybe even a bonus middle if you’re so inclined – can provide more options.
How did you approach choosing middle names?
First published on February 21, 2014, this post was revised substantially and re-published on January 6, 2021 with more updates on January 9, 2024.
We have four kids, each with two middle names. One middle name is from each side of the family, with a little bit of creative license. For example, one of my daughters’ middle names is the name my husband would have had if he had been a girl – so a favourite name of his parents’ which they didn’t get to use. Another girl has an Anglicised version of my grandmother’s name as one of her middles, and another middle we used is strictly a family name but we chose it more for its literary associations.
Our total letter count (first-middle-middle-last) for each child: (partly because I’m curious to add them all up!)
#1: 23
#2: 26
#3: 26
#4: 26
Our naming style in general is go big or go home. I love very long names on very small children. Both our kids have two middle names: one for each side of the family. We used spellings that represented our heritage. For anyone else who likes exceedingly long names, the first and middle spots on the US passport card are limited to a combined total of 24 characters. Our son’s middle names are Armaël Eadbhárd and our daughter’s are Kathryn Anne.
A lot of combos I’m loving right now are shorter firsts and longer middles.
Girls
Ivy Theodora
Morgan Andromeda or Morgan Artemisia
Jane Xanthe – disallowed because husband dislikes Jane. But look at it. Rich, dramatic. And I love Jane X. Lastname.
Boys
Aidan Tzvi/Zvi – Neither Tzvi nor Zvi is getting past the husband as a first name. He thinks Australia isn’t ready this name, which nevertheless was my granddad’s.
Judah Llewelyn
I also really like Elchanan and Peregrine, but best in the middle.
I have a not-ranked first and a daring middle. That’s fine, and they kinda “go” but I don’t mind this way at all.
I know a Morgan Veronica and a Morgan Miriam. Great combinations!
My boyfriend’s middle name is Barker, named after an old man that was his fathers neighbor when his father was a child. His first name came from his father’s partners last name (he was a police officer, his police partner). Luckily his partners last name was a common boys first name, so that made it easier for him!
I love awesome middle names. Well, I love awesome first names too, but I really feel like I can let loose with a middle. My favorite middle name at present belongs to a friend’s (girl) child. Bay, for the Chesapeake where they live.
I prefer daring first, normal middle. If everyone followed normal first + daring middle, the SSA charts would still look incredibly boring with the same overused names like William hogging the top end of the chart
We went the opposite route with our son’s name–a first name that we felt was distinctive enough that he may appreciate having a classic name in the middle. I hate hearing his middle name, James, referred to as “filler” on name blogs and boards. In our case it was chosen with as much love and care as his first name. It gives me more appreciation for middle names I may have once dismissed. I love these suggestions, though, and would definitely consider a wild middle name hiding behind a classic first name to be a lovely surprise!
Same. Our kids all have fun and unusual first names and very “boring” middles, but the middle names were carefully and lovingly chosen. (Our James is a family name with lots of history on my husband’s side. Definitely not just “filler”.) One of our goals was that we’d still be happy with the choices if they chose to go by their middle names as adults.
I’m a bit off-beat in my opinion. I advocate for a not-so-norm or mainstream ready first name. I get why parents want to “avoid” the teasing possibilities, but I feel that just encourages the problem of teasing. I mean that is why we fear giving it to our children and aim for putting it into the middle spot where its rarely heard, unless you make it a habit to announce it like an aristocrat coming into a room or a social functional/event: “the honorable Sir Albert Reginald George Phillip III, Duke of whatever.” Granted on paper, the child can be set apart from the other Johns and Jane doe’s, but the first name doesn’t do that alone. I like the idea of letting the child have an identity with the first name alone instead of having to achieve it with the extra middle names attached. I do like having more than one middle name. I feel that it distinguishes the name, completes it, but if the child has to resort to their middle name to stand out, it kind of defeats the purpose of stuffing the middle with rarities that everyone is too scared of using. I’d almost prefer doing the opposite, uncommon common (insert) last name or uncommon uncommon (insert)last name. But that is just me.
Not just you, totally agree with you. Daring middles to me seems like a wasted opportunity.
I agree with you on a lot of points – I think the middle spot is perfect for names that you love on paper but are somewhat impractical for everyday use, either because they’re similar to a less obscure name and thus would very often be mistaken for that other name (e.g. Sidonie, which sounds very similar to Sydney) or because no one hears or spells it right (e.g. Solveig, Bohdan). I have to say, though, that I cringe every time I hear the name Shiloh Nouvel. It’s great that you like an architect, but why name your daughter after him? It strikes me as pretentious in the worst sort of way.
A lot of people I know tend to use family names only as middle names, and in some cultures it is extremely rare to use a middle name for any other purpose but to honour family. Middle names are definitely not viewed in the same way across cultures, even just within Europe and North America.
Hmmm. Something tells me that the opportunity to make a bunch of combinations had something to do with this post. Great names and points!