Name Help: Familiar but Uncommon Girl NamesName Help is a series at Appellation Mountain. Every week, one reader’s name questions will be discussed.

We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!

M writes:

My partner and I are expecting a daughter in September. We have waited for this child for so long, everything about the experience is blissful.

And then we talk about names, and I feel lost.

My own name is pretty much unique. My parents invented it. It’s long, but even the shorter version I use with friends, work, etc. is so different that it invites comments and looks. Without judgment, I tell you that my name is strange – and my parents intentionally and deliberately made that choice.

As an adult, I’ve come to appreciate their reasons and I don’t dislike my name. But it was a heavy burden for a child. Spelling it, repeating it, explaining it. Still, I never really wanted to be Jessica or Ashley, either, and I think I would have disliked having an ordinary name, too.

I’d like my daughter to enjoy the best parts of both experiences. I want her to have a name that belongs to her alone, but still a name that others have heard of and know how to pronounce and spell.

Can you and your readers help us find some names that are different, but not bizarre? Bonus points if it’s clearly feminine, as my given name is not.

Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Abby replies:

Congratulations on your daughter!

I think parenthood is often like this: we find ourselves revisiting issues from our own childhoods. Not because we’re stuck in the past, but because we want so very much to get it right for our own family and our child’s future.

It’s a lot of pressure!

And yet, I think you’ve done much of the work already. Thinking about your own name first revealed that your daughter’s name should:

  • Not be among the most popular names for children born in this generation.
  • Be generally familiar as a given name.
  • Be clearly feminine.
  • Be easily spelled and pronounced.

Here’s where it gets interesting.

A name like Helen can satisfy those requirements. It’s familiar, easy to spell and pronounce, but relatively uncommon for girls born today. Olivia, the #1 name, was given to over 17,500 girls in 2020 alone. Helen? A mere 718.

And yet, classic Helen ranks within the current US Top 500. (It ranks #424.) Is that too familiar? After growing up with a staggeringly different name, maybe Helen feels too plain?

I’m going to suggest names that avoid the Top 1000 entirely. Most of these names were given to a few dozen girls – at most – in 2020. But I think most of us would recognize them.

A word of caution: the power of popular names is that they’re (usually) instantly recognized. Even a name like Helen can be misheard as Ella – simply because the preschool teacher/soccer coach/neighbor-from-three-doors-down expects a child to be named Ella, rather than Helen.

And, of course, no one has a crystal ball. It’s possible one of these names will take off, and around the time your child is learning to drive, her name will be all over kindergartens.

But I think you can still consider that mission accomplished.

FAMILIAR BUT UNCOMMON GIRL NAMES

ARCADIA

Because the Arcadia region in Greece was long known for its beauty, Arcadia came to mean any particularly lovely spot.

BRIONY

A nature name borrowed from a type of vine, Briony was made famous by the book and movie Atonement. (It was Saoirse Ronan’s breakout role.)

CIRCE

A goddess name from Homer’s Odyssey, Circe is in step with Penelope and Chloe, but just a little different, too.

DELPHINE

French and sophisticated, but still accessible for a child, Delphine can refer to many things – Delphi, in the ancient world; the delphinium flower; dolphins.

DINAH

An Old Testament name, Dinah feels sparky and energetic.

GEORGETTE

Georgia meets Juliette for this just slightly different name.

KAHLO

Borrowed from Frida Kahlo, this surname is a little like popular Harlow, but far less common.

LILAC

A lovely flower name, easy to spell, but rare on a child.

PRAIRIE

Another borrowing from the natural world, an alternative to Meadow.

SONNET

Literary and poetic, Sonnet sounds like so many popular given names.

THORA

An alternative to Nora and Cora, just traditional enough.

TWYLA

Made famous by the legendary dancer Twyla Tharp.

I could go on … and on! So many rare names for girls feel familiar enough to meet the criteria you’ve outlined. The next step is really yours – do the nature names speak to you? Surnames? Something a little on the vintage side?

It’s fine if your answers seem a little all over the place. I like Kahlo as much as Thora … or Helen!

And, of course, if you feel like all of these names seem a little too different, you can always adjust the dial on popularity, and go back to the US Top 1000:  Marceline, Artemis, or Cleo, maybe?

Readers, what familiar but uncommon girl names would you suggest to M.?

Name Help: Familiar but Uncommon Girl Names

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20 Comments

  1. Daphne
    Susanna
    Verity
    Petra
    Winifred
    Rhea
    Flora
    Marigold

    Petra in particular seems to be a great choice for your criteria!

  2. I think something short and sparkly might be the ticket for you. I love the name Yara for you! Or what about Vada? Twyla from Abby’s list also is in the short-and-sparkly category. By virtue of being shorter, a name like Yara will probably run into less of the name issues you faced, while still being really special. And having a semi-familiar name with a unique initial like Y (or even U, what do you think of Uma?), could blend everything you’re looking for in a name into one lovely package.

    Pick a couple of names and then try them out at a coffee shop to see how many times they ask you to repeat it, if they spell it right, and if they pronounce it right when they call for you. And if there are mistakes, clock what does or doesn’t bother you. To what degree is it easier than your own name? And most of all, do you get a flutter of excitement saying it and hearing it called? Best of luck!

  3. I loved the idea of Twyla, Lilac, and Delphine — especially Delphine. I also love Paloma (940), Della (916), Judith (904), Simone (875), and Ramona (816). And I had a student this year named Demeter and thought the name was unusual but very cut on her — she went by Demi.

  4. I love Arcadia and it also brings to mind Arden, Olympia and Bethany (603). Olympia (nn Ollie or Pia) feels like a great substitute for Olivia. People probably recognize it as more of a place name, but it has history as a given name. Arden is currently unranked, but has been in and out of the 900s since 2015.

    Some unranked names:
    Seraphina nn Sera, Sadie, Zadie, Zade, Rafa, Rafi, Fifi
    Ida fits the mini name trend, but hasn’t come back yet.

    Ranked names:
    Alma (567)
    Esmeralda (395) nn Essie, Esme, Mare
    Evangeline (262) nn Evie, Effie, Ange, Angie, Elle, Ellie. Personally I would also consider Vangie as a nickname because it’s SO zippy.

    I’m going back and forth on Isabelline, Is it too similar to Isabella, or just different enough? It refers to an extemely pale golden color. It’s unranked.

  5. My daughter, Tabitha, has yet to share her name- there is no student with her name in her entire school. So I nominate her name, but am going to suggest others as well.
    Faye, Rowena, Sybil, Prudence, Constance, Dorthea, Isadora, Clover. I love Abby’s suggestions too- especially Circe, Sonnet and Thora. I read the book Circe by Madeline Miller recently and it was beautiful, it makes Circe seem like a great namesake. I hope you find a name that you love, congratulations!

  6. Zora
    Irena/Irina
    Zelda
    Drusilla
    Hestia
    Antonia
    Maeve
    Agatha
    Lotus
    Philippa
    Susan
    Leona
    Viola
    Basilia
    Theoclea

  7. I’m going to suggest you avoid names like Briony, Circe, and Kahlo, which I don’t think will be recognized or easily pronounced. I have heard unfamiliar names and spellings butchered at school competitions by the announcer and they are often screwed up in other venues. Circe might be turned into Circle or rhymed with hearse; Briony could be turned into Brittany. The only real child I have heard of with the name pronounces it Bree-OH-nee, to rhyme with bologna, instead of Brya-knee. My advice would be to take a look at the current popularity list and take a close look at names with between 300 and 500 uses and see which ones stand out to you. Then ask your family, friends, any teachers or children you know, the receptionist at the doctor’s office and the Starbucks barista how they would pronounce it aand how many people they know with the name. Three hundred to five hundred uses is pretty rare but still familiar and in the top 1,000. You will also want to avoid names that sound or look too similar to more populat names.