Name Help is a series at Appellation Mountain. Every week, one reader’s name questions will be discussed.
We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!
Help! We have a son named Allen Riley, and we’re expecting another son in September.
I adore my sweet little boy, but I’m not crazy about the name Allen, even two years later. It is The Most Important Name in my husband’s family, and it meant everything to him and to his mom to use it. But Allen still sounds so … I don’t know? Middle-aged?! Which my son will be someday, of course. But I had a really hard time calling any baby Allen, even my own!
My husband knows I feel this way, and because he’s awesome, he suggested that I choose the name for this baby, and he’d be fine with whatever I liked for the first name. (I chose Allen’s middle name.)
That sounds great, but I feel like it’s really hard, too!
So far I like Wyatt, Hayes, Holden, and Miles, or maybe Milo. I do like Arlo, but I’m not sure I want two A names. We’d like to have one more baby after this, and I don’t want to be stuck with all A names. I like Reed/Reid (not sure about spelling), but our last name is like David-plus-son, and the d sounds run together.
I’m worried that their names won’t sound right together, but I can’t think of what would sound like Allen’s brother. Craig, Randy, Barry?! I mean … no.
And there really aren’t any more family names, from either of our families, that we would really consider using.
Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.
Dear Kate –
Let’s begin with the most important part: you did a really good thing when you welcomed your first child. You unselfishly let your husband choose The One Name that would mean more to him than anything. And while I know what you mean about Allen being a very grown-up name for a baby, I happen to know a school-aged Allen. (I think it’s a family name, too.) And it’s all kinds of adorable, once you get over the surprise.
And I think it is so good and fair and reasonable of your husband to recognize that it’s your turn to drive.
None of this, of course, helps you actually name your son.
Maybe this will: repetition makes anything sound like a set.
No, really. Think about your married friends. Their names almost certainly don’t match, at least not all of the time. Except it’s almost hard to recognize that, because I’m so used to saying “Oh, right, I’ll call Keri and Henry.” Or “Maybe we should see if Jeff + Mary are free.”
For every Josh and Lindsay, there’s a Brad and Martha.
The same is true for your boys: Allen and Wyatt or Allen and Milo or Allen and … erm … Barry, whatever you choose, will quickly sound right together.
But I do have a thought.
Allen reads a little like a surname name. It started out as a given name, but particularly this spelling – as opposed to Alan/Allan – feels like a last name in the first spot.
So I wonder if you’d be more comfortable with another name that shares the same history?
Wyatt, Hayes, Holden, and Miles all fit. And I think they sound very much like a match for Allen. And the fact that they’re similar in length helps, too. Allen’s brother could be Balthazar – but I think that would be more noticeably different.
Actually, Holden might be too similar. I also wonder about the repeating D sounds with your surname?
So that leaves Wyatt, Hayes, and Miles. Let’s add a few more.
More surname style boy names:
A surname name that feels outdoorsy, but also at home in a blue blazer.
I like the way Allen and Everett both start with vowel sounds.
I really like Parker with your surname, and I think it works well as Allen’s brother.
Walton is so rare, it surprises me! It hasn’t appeared in the US Top 1000 since the 1950s. But I almost feel like that makes it an even better match for Allen.
Like Brooks, this name straddles the surname/nature name divide.
We tend to hear it as a first name, but Xavier started out in the last spot.
From your list, my favorite is Hayes. Allen and Hayes are different in sound, and, in some ways, belong to different eras. But I think they’re consistent in terms of style, and I really like the slightly varied syllable count.
But I’m not sure I love Hayes with your surname. And Miles with David-plus-son sounds awfully close to the jazz musician.
So that brings us to my list. My favorite is probably Wells. Besides the surname qualities, I like the way that Wells nods to nature names. And maybe virtue names, too – after all, we talk about “wellness” and “well being” and “wellsprings.” All positive, auspicious images for a child’s name.
Wells Xavier, maybe? Or Wells Everett?
Readers, over to you! What would you name a brother for Allen Riley?
I like the suggestions of Grant in the comments and Abby’s suggestion of Everett, from your list I think Hayes sounds great. I also like Reid but agree that it runs into your last name a bit. Maybe you’d like Rhys instead? For some reason the name Jeremy also came to mind as a brother to Allen. Good luck!
I really dig Abby’s suggestions of Everett or Parker. I think both fit really nicely with Allen and make the bridge from middle-aged Alan to contemporary-last-name-first-name Allen more apparent to the ear.
For what it is worth, I really like Allen yet not Alan. Crazy right? But the spelling matters (to a name nerd at least).
I also really like the suggestions of Grant and Elliott. I think those work superbly too. Grant Reid D… Or Elliott Reid D…. I love how both boys would have a middle R name.
The only other idea I had in the vein of Reid was Rowan. Allen and Rowan. This pairing makes Allen seem more contemporary while highlighting Rowan’s traditional roots too. Rowan D…. Rowan Reid. Rowan Wyatt. Some really good options here.
Best of luck!
I realized that all the suggestions that really stood out to me matched Allen’s double letters, which is a nice way of tying two names together I think. So in addition to Wyatt and Everett, maybe:
Grant was a great suggestion too! If double letter isn’t your thing, maybe Brady, Gilbert, Jones, Jack, or Dean.
The Mrs. says
Do you like Rex?
Allen and Rex sound like brothers.
Oh! What about Grant? Allen and Grant sound like brothers!
I feel like you already nailed it with Wyatt, and I also really like Abby’s suggestions of Everett and Parker. Wesley and Grady were also nice suggestions.
I’m not sure this matters to you but Harrison Wells is the nemesis of Barry Allen (The Flash).
I also think the following would work quite nicely:
Levi Davidson, Allen and Levi
Cooper Davidson, Allen and Cooper
Maxwell Davidson, Allen and Maxwell or Allen and Max
Elliott Davidson, Allen and Elliott
Tucker Davidson, Allen and Tucker
Laurence Davidson, Allen and Laurence or Allen and Laurie
Personally I’m rooting for Wyatt
I actually think Allen is cute, “Lenny” would be such a cute nickname too!
My favourite from your list is Wyatt and I agree with Abby I actually quite like how Allen and Everett sound together. Good luck!
Love Hayes and Wells. I like the idea of treating as a surname.
I have to say of all the crazy little old men names out there that have become popular Allen does seem so refreshing.
I also like the suggestion of Xavier.
I think Reid is the perfect match with Allen. And I just love the name. It’s a strong, classic name that can bridge modern and more traditional styles.
From Abby’s suggestions, I also like Wells and Brooks as a sibset with Allen.
Hoping you’ll find a middle name with some special significance though. Maybe your maiden name? Or another family name or surname from your side? If not, I’d look for something that has some special significance or meaning to you both.
Hayes is my favorite from the list of names in contention. Parker is my favorite from Abby’s suggestions.
Allen and Grady
Allen and Gavin
Allen and Trevor
Allen and Wade
Allen and John
Allen and Walker
Allen and Bram
Allen and Graham
Allen and Spencer
Allen and Malcolm
Allen and Owen
Allen and Nolan
Allen and Patrick
Allen and Peter
Allen and Ray
Allen and Jay
I think Owen and Nolan are nice because they’re similar to Holden.
Grady is similar in style to Allen’s middle name Riley.
Graham feels similar in style to Miles.
Ray and Jay both have that long A sound like Hayes. I actually really like Ray with Allen! I can see Ray making a comeback; such a snappy cool name.
Trevor feels modern yet grown up at the same time and fits nicely with Allen as well.
Alison Doherty says
Hayes is my favorite too! Second choice is Parker!
Allen and Wyatt sound like brothers!
Since Allen Riley is a more traditional first name paired with a more contemporary middle name, I would switch the pattern for your second son and choose a contemporary first and a traditional middle.
Wyatt Charles D.
Parker James D.
Miles Henry D.
Best wishes to you!