We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!
My boyfriend and I are expecting our first child next month. He’s stuck on having a junior, and I just can’t do it.
Maybe, maybe if he had a different name I’d consider it. Like a name that could have two nicknames for dad/son. But his name is Logan, and his middle name is Lee.
The names I’ve suggested (so far) are Wells, Banks, Grey, Granger, Grayer, Grayson, Ledger, Baylor, Wesson, and Truett.
He keeps just going back to Logan.
The baby’s last name will be H@rkins.
Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.
Congratulations on your new son!
First, know that you are not alone.
Otherwise reasonable men sometimes dig their heels in when it comes to passing down their names. And they’ve been doing it forever. It’s not an unreasonable impulse, either. Family names have their strengths, and they can be great choices – sometimes.
But here’s the thing: he wants a junior, but you do not. Therefore, you will not be naming your son Logan Junior. And I’m certain, that if he really thinks about it, he’ll acknowledge that it’s not fair to try to strong arm your partner into ANY name.
Tell him I said so.
Now, how DO you move forward?
There’s one obvious, workable compromise in this case:
Move Logan to the middle spot and agree that you need to choose a first name you both like.
After all, I’m guessing H@rkins is your boyfriend’s last name. That means that two out of three of your son’s names come from his side. A jointly-chosen first just barely re-balances the equation.
It sounds like you haven’t talked about your list of names much, so let’s take a look at it now.
Wells and Banks are great names, but I’m not sure about the -s ending with your child’s surname. Wells H@rkins is … okay, not great.
Ledger, Granger, Grayer, and Baylor also seem less than ideal to my ear. The -r ending catches just a little with H@rkins. Not in a dealbreaker way, but if they’re not favorites, i’d probably move on. But maybe not, because while Baylor H@rkins is really a tongue-twister for me, Grayer H@arkins sounds perfectly fine. Call it something to think about, and say your son’s name five times fast before committing.
That leaves Wesson, Truett, and Grey/Grayson from the long list of Gray names.
I think all of them work really well with your surname, and they’re all similar in style – contemporary choices with history and style.
When I put them with Logan as a middle name, though?
- WESSON LOGAN H@RKINS – I’m not wild about the repeating -n endings. It’s okay, not great.
- TRUETT LOGAN H@RKINS – While they’re all two-syllable names, I think the varied endings make this sound appealing. Also, the nickname True for Truett has lots of appeal.
- GREY LOGAN H@RKINS – This works! The shorter first name balances the longer middle.
- GRAYSON LOGAN H@RKINS – I’ll raise the same concern as with Wesson. It’s a sort of repetitive ending. And yet, if you plan to call your son Gray (Grey?) then maybe it works just fine.
In fact, I’m tempting to suggest Grayson (or Greyson) called Gray (or Grey). It’s a mainstream favorite, and the choice gives you some flexibility between the longer first name and the shorter nickname. While it’s not ideal with Logan as a middle name, I think it works just fine. And it’s clear that you’re strongly drawn to the Gray sound.
My second choice is Truett, Overall, I think it’s a better combination. But that’s not always the only consideration, and so I’ll rank it a close second.
Of course, once you start talking about names, it’s perfectly possible that your Logan has a great suggestion or three himself. And if what he’s really saying is that he’s interested in family names? Then it’s worth considering ones that you do agree would be great for your son – and I’d push for a name from your family tree, if that’s at all possible.