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Name Help: A Boy After Twin Girls

October 5, 2018 By appellationmountain 20 Comments

Name Help: A Brother for Harper and SloaneName Help is a series at Appellation Mountain. Every week, one reader’s name questions will be discussed.

We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!

Bree writes:

Why is it so hard to name a boy?

We have twin daughters named Harper Julia and Sloane Amanda. The middle names come from dear friends who are the girls’ godmothers. The first names are names we loved. I wish Harper wasn’t so popular now, but the girls are going into first grade, and we don’t really meet that many Harpers.

Our third – and last – child is due in a few weeks. For some reason, I thought it would be a girl again, so I was thinking about names like Lennon, Laine/Delaney, Quinn, Marlowe, and Whitaker.

But it’s a boy! My husband keeps coming back to names like William and James, which I can’t see on my son. Or maybe Dylan, Logan, or Brennan, and I do like those – but better for a girl.

I’m not sure if I should choose a name that we both like, even if we might have considered it for a daughter? Or if there’s something we’re just not thinking of?

Read on for my response, and please leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Dear Bree –

Congratulations on your new baby!

I think you’ve stumbled into one of those baby naming dilemmas. Using unisex-style names for daughters can make it a little more confusing to name a son.

And yet, I think you have a path forward, because unisex names aren’t often truly unisex.

Stay with me for a minute here.

In order for a name to be truly unisex, it has to be used in even numbers for boys and girls alike. In the US, very few names fit that description. Most of them are used more heavily for boys or girls. Your daughters’ names, Harper and Sloane, are both used almost exclusively for girls.

So one possible approach? Choose a surname-style name that trends masculine. Your kids’ names will go together nicely, but others will (mostly) guess correctly that Harper and Sloane are girls, and your son is a boy.

To be clear, I don’t think a little bit of confusion is the end of the world. More and more names do feel truly unisex these days, and my own kids’ experience suggests that it’s not nearly as burdensome as some perceive. We’ve known boy and girl Jordans and Averys. The kids seem to shrug it off.

Still, I think you might feel more confident if you chose a name like Dylan, Logan, or Brennan, but maybe one that sounds more clearly masculine to you. And, happily, there are plenty of options that aren’t used in big numbers – if at all – for girls.

Callahan – So often, it’s the potential nickname that determines if we perceive a name as feminine or masculine. Emerson shortens to Emmie, so we hear girl. But Callahan? It becomes cool Cal.

Hendrix – Maybe it’s because Hendrix is so close to traditional Henry, or perhaps it’s because we all think of world-changing Jimi when we hear it, but Hendrix feels perfect for a son.

Paxton – Pax was, indeed, a goddess. In ancient Rome, she personified peace. But thanks to Max and Jax – plus Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt’s son – we hear Pax as masculine today. Paxton actually comes from an unrelated Old English name. Again, this one is all-boy.

Reid – I love the clean, strong sound of Reid. The ‘ei’ spelling is slightly more popular than Reed, but both feel like logical choices for a brother to Harper and Sloane.

Thatcher – You could consider Hunter or Carter, but if you’re after something less common, would you consider Thatcher?

Walker – Along the same lines, Walker is one of those -r ending names that might work nicely. Though now I’m wondering if two -r ending names is too much in one family? I don’t think so, but I’m also going to suggest …

Walton – This might be my favorite with Harper and Sloane! The Walt part makes it feel masculine – though, interestingly, it doesn’t really come from Walter. All three names have different first initials, different ending sounds – and yet a cohesive style.

If not Walton, I’m most drawn to Reid.

Can one of those more classic firsts be moved to the middle spot? Reid William, maybe, or Walton James? I think that could make for a great compromise between his favorites and yours.

Readers, I’m wondering if any of you have wrestled with this challenge? What would you name a brother for Harper and Sloane?

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Comments

  1. Nieke says

    October 9, 2018 at 8:11 PM

    Rafferty, Callahan and Sawyer are great!

    If your husband is into more classic names, how about a traditional boy’s name that feels a like more modern? I think the following names fit well with Harper and Sloane:
    Felix
    Oscar
    Ames
    Marlon
    Dylan
    Arlo
    Quinton
    Flynn

    Or a few more masculine sounding surnames:
    Archer
    Huxley
    Kingston
    Holden
    Hudson
    Winston
    Lowell

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  2. Sadie says

    October 9, 2018 at 12:52 PM

    I say start fresh since you have a different style for girls and boys. I agree a more male-leaning surname would work well. I like the suggestions of Griffin, Sullivan, Wyatt, Thatcher, and Callahan. A few more ideas:

    Alden
    Cormac
    Dean
    Flynn
    Grayson
    Holden
    Miles
    Shea
    Wade

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  3. Sheri says

    October 8, 2018 at 4:23 PM

    I love Whitaker James for your family, but if that feels too feminine because you’d imagined it for a daughter, how about Whitman? Whitman James is handsome, keeps the nickname Wit or Whit and Walt Whitman is a great literary connection!

    Sloane, Harper and Whitman are a great pairing and Whitman clearly reads as boy to me

    Congrats! I can’t wait to see what you choose!

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  4. Honorific says

    October 7, 2018 at 9:28 PM

    Honestly your list is transferable to a boy so I would just go off of that list.

    But if you want some other ideas –

    Brady
    Thatcher
    Wilson
    Luca
    Hayes
    Marshall
    Evan
    Riley
    Avery
    Cameron

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  5. A Waguespack says

    October 7, 2018 at 10:17 AM

    I agree that Lennon or Whitaker (nn Whit too cute!) would totally work for a boy. Whitaker James sounds amazing!!!!

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  6. Nessie says

    October 6, 2018 at 1:18 PM

    Logan or Wyatt

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  7. Jonquil says

    October 6, 2018 at 12:53 AM

    Alvar
    Denbigh
    Jago
    Jory
    Pelham
    Redmond

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  8. Jaime says

    October 5, 2018 at 11:56 PM

    Forgot to add:

    Nolan
    Grady
    Davis
    Dane
    Sullivan, nn Sully
    Griffin

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  9. Jaime says

    October 5, 2018 at 11:54 PM

    I love Abby’s suggestion of Reid or Callahan. I also think Whitaker from your list would work really well.

    A few others I like with your sibset:

    Brooks
    Beckett
    Finnegan, nn Finn
    Jude
    Milo
    Burke
    Wyatt

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  10. Deb says

    October 5, 2018 at 7:22 PM

    Another vote for Whitaker for your boy. I actually don’t think it would have fit with Harper and Sloane as a girls name nearly as well as it doesn’t for a boy. Plus I love the nickname Whit for a boy.

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  11. stefanie says

    October 5, 2018 at 4:49 PM

    Since gender is just a guess when a baby’s born, I think a gender neutral name is a great thing. There’s no reason why the boy’s name has to scream “I have a penis,” you know? Lennon is nice! Walton gives me pause unless you love Walmart, but surnames like Crosby and Reed (or Reid) sound like they fit in just fine with your girls.

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  12. The Mrs. says

    October 5, 2018 at 3:50 PM

    Classic for your husband, but a surname for you?

    Clark.

    Harper, Sloan, and Clark.

    He’s not especially popular, but he IS familiar.
    Everyone gets their own first initial, too!

    Best wishes!

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  13. C in DC says

    October 5, 2018 at 3:09 PM

    Whitaker reads “all boy” to me. Would Whitman work better for you?

    Ferris. Riley. Bryce. Wesley. Sawyer. Magnum. Redding. Maxwell. Frasier. Graham. Kenneth/McKenneth/Mackenzie. Grant. Wright. Beau. Bridger. Briggs. Declan. Ian/Ewan. Trent.

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  14. Jean C. says

    October 5, 2018 at 2:05 PM

    I looove Reid! That one is hard to top for me.
    I also like Graham, Griffin, Gavin (apparently I just like a lot of G names??), Colin/Connor.
    I also think many parents have different styles of names depending on the sex of the child. I actually really like James with Harper and Sloane. Or names that I would consider somewhat in the middle would be: Sebastian, Christian, Dominic, Everett. Or would a name like Julian, that is distinctly male but with a unisex vibe be a good fit?
    Good luck and congratulations!

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  15. Ainsley says

    October 5, 2018 at 2:01 PM

    I also wanted to suggest Whittaker for a boy. I’ve only ever met one, and he frequently went by Whit. It’s a strong name and wears well!

    From Abby’s suggestions I really like Callahan!

    Other suggestions:
    Brooks
    Davis
    Carson
    Cameron “Cam”
    Wells
    Graham
    Elliot
    Avery
    Nolan

    I think both Elliot and Nolan work especially well with Sloane and Harper. They feel more modern classic than traditional classic (James, William) which might be a good compromise between yours and your husband’s style

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  16. Amanda says

    October 5, 2018 at 12:17 PM

    How about Rafferty, Donovan, or Brody? Also last-name type names, but skewing more masculine.

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  17. RedRosie says

    October 5, 2018 at 12:09 PM

    I immediately thought “William it James? Nah…” before reading on, lol.
    How about….

    Anders/Anderson
    Beckett
    Cameron
    Everett
    Harrison
    Hayes
    Jameson
    Keller
    Knox
    Lachlan (love!)
    Meade
    Sullivan
    Vaughn
    Weston

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  18. Rebecca says

    October 5, 2018 at 11:40 AM

    I like Hendrix… These are a few ideas as well:
    Phoenix
    Judah
    Dante
    Luca
    McCarthy
    Bennett

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  19. Renée says

    October 5, 2018 at 11:21 AM

    It sounds like your husband is leaning more towards traditional for boy names, but I think there are a lot of great options here that fit both modern and traditional style… From Abby’s list my faves are Paxton, Callahan, and Thatcher.
    A few more for your cisideration-
    Grant
    Henry
    Sawyer
    Jack
    Miles
    Milo
    Huxley
    Easton
    Cassius or “cash”
    Logan
    Cole
    Maxim

    Congrats on your son!! 🙂

    Reply
  20. L. says

    October 5, 2018 at 11:11 AM

    How about Whitaker for a boy? I actually think Logan, Dylan, and Brennan would be great for a boy too. I think everyone would assume that a person with any of those names is male, whereas they’d assume the opposite for Harper and Sloane. I would scratch off Walton because it reminds me of the Walmart heirs. I don’t have any other associations with the name. Do you have any other appealing surnames on your family tree?

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