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FINDING NAMES THAT STAND OUT
Jennifer writes:
As a late 1980s Jennifer, I always wanted a different name. Like a really different name.
It only got worse when I married a Michael. We know two other couples who are also some kind of Jen and Mike combination.
So it was very important to us that our children’s names be different. Not Jaguar or Nightshade or Brick, but definitely the kind of name they wouldn’t share.
We agreed on Matilda pretty quickly for our first child. If she’d been a boy, her name would’ve been Duncan, and we still love that name for a son, if we ever have one.
But we’re having another girl and we’re struggling with our list. Maybe a fresh set of eyes would help?
The names we’re considering:
- Annika – or Anika? Worried it would be pronounced an EEK ah/spelled wrong
- Clarissa – I think it’s too much like Matilda; suggested Clarice instead, but Mike can’t get over Silence of the Lambs connection
- Ingrid – too gruff?
- Natasha – loved this name as a kid, but I think it sounds like too much maybe now, almost theatrical
- Paulina – Mike’s favorite, and I want to like it, but not sure
- Primrose – Love it, but not sure if I would use it
- Ramona – I want to love it, but it’s maybe not the one, probably because our last name starts with R
- Seraphina – Kind of love it, mostly think it’s too much, probably the favorite right now but not really
- Winifred – would everyone call her Winnie? We call Matilda things like Tills and Tillie sometimes, but I’m a little worried Winnie would become her name
Our last name is a man’s first name plus S. (We share it with Captain America, but no relation.) Because it’s also pretty common, that makes finding the right first name more important.
Matilda’s middle name is a family name, Varley. We will probably use another family name for this baby, Landry, assuming it works with the first name we choose.
Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.
A SISTER FOR MATILDA
Abby replies:
Congratulations on your new daughter!
I know I say it all the time, but it’s funny how most of parenting gets easier with experience … and yet naming gets harder somehow.
From your current list, it feels like most of the names really aren’t options. Either you’re really not sure or one of you has already ruled it out.
These are the strongest possibilities, I think:
ANNIKA
Yes, it might sometimes be pronounced ah-NEE-kah or some other way. And some might spell it with a single N. But most of the time I see Annika spelled – and hear it pronounced – the way you prefer. Maybe that’s thanks to professional golfer Annika Sörenstam. Matilda and Annika strike me as nicely balanced.
INGRID
There is something about Ingrid that might be called gruff. It’s heavy on consonants with that “gr” sound, right? But Ingrid is also luminous. Ingrid Bergman in Casablanca. It literally means beautiful. And I think it’s a great fits-in/stands-out kind of choice.
NATASHA
I hear you about loving Natasha for a long time, but finding it a bit too much now. It is a dramatic name, perfect for say, Natasha Romanoff in the Marvel Movies. And yet, I think it’s still perfect for a real girl. In an age with names like Olivia and Isabella in the US Top Ten, is Natasha really that much?
PAULINA
Another name that’s easy to pronounce and spell, familiar to all – but really quite uncommon.
WINIFRED
On the one hand, I think you’re right about Winnie. I have a hard time imagining a Winifred not answering to the nickname. On the other hand, I’m not clear if you dislike the name Winnie particularly? If it’s just the idea of the nickname being used more often, I think that’s a) a reasonable concern; and b) likely to be something you don’t mind so much over time.
Let me suggest some fresh ideas, too:
ARTEMIS
The goddess of the hunt in Greek myth, Artemis is familiar to many – but her name isn’t often heard in real life. It’s only recently entered the US Top 1000.
CECILY
Cecilia is a rising favorite, but Cecily is a little different. It’s more vintage and less expected, too.
CLEMENTINE
Clementine can shorten to Clemmie or Clem or even Cleo. But like Matilda, it feels like a name meant to be used in full.
ELODIE
I love the rhythm of Cecily with Matilda. Elodie might be another option.
PALOMA
If Paulina is close, but not quite, how about Paloma? It’s a Spanish name meaning dove.
SERENA
Peaceful Serena is a name with lots of history, and a straightforward spelling and pronunciation. It’s a little less than Seraphina, maybe?
SYLVIE
A little bit Cecily, a little bit Serena.
VERONICA
The kind of name that always comes to mind when I hear Matilda.
Overall, my favorites are Annika from your list and Clementine from mine. I might list Paloma as a dark horse alternative to Paulina, too. Matilda Varley and Clementine Landry, though – I kind of love those together!
I love your elder daughter’s name: Matilda is one of my very favorites!
It strikes me that, like Matilda, some of your “maybe” names evoke female protagonists from children’s literature.
Ramona Quimby would be a wonderful namesake, and I think Ramona R*g*rs sounds great. I had a classmate with a similar name (Ramona R*ch*rds), and she was proud to have an “R squared” name.
And Winifred “Winnie” Foster is the heroine of the classic book Tuck Everlasting. If you don’t like Winnie as a nickname, there are tons of other options: Winn, Fred, Freddie, Windy, Wendy, Win-Win, or Dubs (from W).
This makes me wonder whether you’d consider another literary name, such as Dorothy, Eloise, Gretel, Harriet, or Heidi. I think they’re all great options to go with Matilda.
Here are some other possibilities based on your existing list…
Inspired by Annika:
Anais
Anouk
Inspired by Ingrid:
Iris
Adelaide
Greta
Inspired by Paulina:
Pauline
Patrice
Apolline
Opaline
Inspired by Natasha:
Nadia
Natalia
Natalie
Sasha
Inspired by Clarissa:
Cassandra
Vanessa
And a few others…
Adele
Aurelie
Emmeline
Louise
Lydia
I like Natasha and Astrid from the lists. Would Paulette appeal if Paulina isn’t quite right? Other ideas: Lucinda, Bethany, Valerie, Lorraine, Patricia, Marina, Carina, Linnea, Danica, or Jemima.
Seconding Abby’s suggestion of Sylvie (or Sylvia), as well as Beatrix/Beatrice and Tallulah from the comments. Other ideas:
-Adelaide (A great fits-in-stands-out kind of name)
-Astrid (In the same vein as Annika but a little more familiar)
-Eloise (I love the idea of both girls having a children’s book with their name! Ramona is also cute for this, or maybe Alice?)
-Florence
-Clover
-Imogen (A little softer than Ingrid but similar-ish)
-Louisa
-Marigold (A little less out-there than Primrose)
-Persephone (Similar to Seraphina but a little bit more popular and a little more restrained)
Congrats, Jennifer and Michael!
From your list, I love Annika.
From Abbyโs list, I love Cecily.
Happy name hunting!
I like Paulina or Pauline with Matilda a lot! I also love love love the suggestions of Veronica and Clementine — Matilda and Veronica, Matilda and Clementine, perfection!! My first thought when I think of Matilda is Felicity and I think Felicity Landry is very cute. I also love Matilda with Beatrice, Juniper, and Louise.
I love Ingrid from your list. It has a restrained style, similar to Matilda, which I think is quite refreshing for a girl today.
I also adore Natasha, even though (to me) it feels a little out of step with current styles (it was big in the 1980s where I am, though it doesn’t feel like a Jessica or Melissa type of name). I fell for it while watching a movie version of War of Peace where Natasha was played by Clรฉmence Poรฉsy.
And I am always happy to come across a Paulina, too!
So I think your list has great potential. None of these names immediately jump out to me as obvious sisters to Matilda, but maybe that’s a good thing.
Based on Ingrid, I’ll also suggest Astrid or even Sigrid; based on Natasha, how about Nadia or Saskia; and based on Paulina/Primrose: Pearl, Patience, Prudence, Petra or Pernille (this last one is very unexpected, but I like it a lot!)
As a fellow long-time love of the names Natasha, I have to encourage you to go for it!
Matilda Varney and Natasha Landry sound like sisters!
Natasha is not too out there: the Obamas used it for their daughter, and it’s more familiar than names like Primrose or Artemis.
I also love:
Matilda and Tallulah
Matilda and Celeste
Matilda and Cecily
Matilda and Beatrix
Matilda and Astrid
Matilda and Fiona
Why not Landry as a first name? Itโs beautiful and spunky!
I love ruby for Matildas sister
From your list, I’m loving Ingrid, Annika and Natasha.
I came to suggest Dorothy. Matilda and Dorothy. Tillie and Dot. Dorothy Landry R…s