People ask me all the time: is it a big deal to go by your middle name?
My answer is no, not really. It’s what I do, and 99% of people I interact with never ask to see my ID. Even though it throws me when someone calls me by my first, it’s not like I need the person looking up my insurance claim information to know that I prefer my middle.
And yet, generally speaking, life is easier if you’re NOT known by your middle name. There are good and valid reasons to do it my way, and many more R. Michaels and S. Lauras that you would ever guess. But those 1% moments? They’re out there.
Case in point: my daughter is in a new activity, and to volunteer, I’m required to have a background check and wear a name tag, generated by the national organization. Who could argue with such a process in 2018?
But the name tag they sent bears my full legal name. Another volunteer, who I’ve only ever known as Julie, is, it turns out Julianne. And so on.
Every time I encounter something like this, I find myself thinking two things: first, it’s a minor inconvenience for me. The kids won’t call me by my first name anyway, and the adults? They’re well aware that I’m Abby, not Amy Abigail, thanks. But for the organizations? I feel like it’s a missed opportunity. Asking people what they want to be called – and then using it! – seems like a simple, but meaningful act.
Just something to think about.
- Is it me, or have there been an awful lot of headline-grabbing celebrity birth announcements lately? I’m fascinated by Kate Hudson’s new daughter’s name, Rani Rose. Here’s a closer look at all of Kate’s kids’ names. She seems to be a big believer in reinventing family names, and I love it!
- Winter is coming! And so are the storm names. Much as I geek out about these lists, a reader reminded me that they can represent devastating consequences – and the people who already have a name like Katrina are conflicted when that happens. An interesting fact: they’re named not for amusement, but because studies have shown that we prepare better for named storms, and take them more seriously. This article points out that it’s also easier to track them. (And includes British storm names, too.)
- Will Keira Knightley’s star turn in Colette boost the name Colette? Or maybe … Claudine? A movie I’m very curious to see …
- Back to celebrity baby names, because Smashing Pumpkins frontman Billy Corgan named his daughter Philomena Clementine. Swoon!
- A reader pointed out that lots of great girl names appear in Pumpkins songs, so I made a list: Ava, from 1998, well before peak Ava; Daphne, Martha, Lily, Luna, Starla, Ruby, and doubtless a few more …
- I agree with Duana – Louis seems like a great choice, nevermind the little prince. Though I do still think we’ll be hearing more of this name in the years to come.
- Another edition of name quotes from Nancy. Peter Rabbett!
- Tulip’s take on spelling. I agree.
That’s all for this week! As always, thank you for reading, and have a great week!