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Name Help: Porter or Phoebe?

August 14, 2018 By appellationmountain 24 Comments

Name Help: Porter or Phoebe?An update: welcome to the world, Thayer Grey! Natalie writes, ” … we were leaning towards Porter Blaire … but after sitting with it, I just couldn’t imagine calling her Porter. Phoebe … also didn’t sing. I pulled out an old, old list from when I was pregnant with my first daughter, and began reading names … towards the top of the list was Thayer.”

What a great name – and how lovely that it was right there, waiting for you!

Natalie writes:

I have so enjoyed reading your blog, and I am hoping you’ll take on my case!! I am pregnant with our second girl and have been struggling with a name.

Our first daughter is Tatum Scout, her middle name in honor of To Kill a Mocking Bird and Harper Lee. The name suits her, always felt right from the beginning and has many great nickname options (Tate, Tates, Scout, Scoutie …)

We really want our second daughter’s name to have meaning, too. I have been leaning toward Phoebe or Porter for months now.

I just like Phoebe, plus she’s Holden Caulfield’s sister in The Catcher in the Rye. (I do not like that I would be naming her after a male author’s creation, so would need to find a middle name that honors a woman).

Porter is the last name of the woman who wrote Pollyanna, which was a story I enjoyed as a child. Katherine Anne Porter is a Pulitzer Prize-winning author, and finally Miss Porter’s School is an all girl’s school in Connecticut (where I grew up), was started by Sarah Porter. She believed it was important that girls were educated, and that they learn chemistry, physiology, and other subjects that weren’t typically taught to women. I like the meaning of Porter, “to carry” or “gatekeeper.” And I also like the association with ports, partially because all of my ancestors came to this country via boat through Ellis Island, but also because ports, in a way, unite us all. A stretch, but I like the idea.

The biggest con about choosing Porter is it’s an occupational surname as a first name which is SO on trend. Most of my nephews and nieces have similar names (Cooper, Carter, Taylor …) Phoebe seems more unique in this way, although higher ranking in popularity.

I can’t choose! And I wonder if I’m missing another obvious choice — please, if you can weigh in!

Read on for my response, and please leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Dear Natalie –

Congratulations on your second daughter!

Here’s what leaps out at me: Tatum feels just right with Phoebe, but it also sounds great with Porter. That’s because Tatum falls midway between the two, style-wise. And so I wonder if committing to Phoebe or Porter changes – ever so slightly – the way you hear Tatum’s name, too?

Let’s start with Porter. First, I think the imagery of ports and ships works nicely. Would some people think you’d lost your mind if you explained? Sure. But it makes sense, and I tend to think the same thing about names like Bridger and Harbor. So the meaning feels exactly right, even if it’s not as obvious as Mercy or Grace. And really, the meaning mostly stays private. It matters to you and your family, and hopefully to your daughter someday, too – which is why I tend to think that a stretch isn’t a problem at all.

Now, about the style question. It’s true that our playgrounds are chock full of kids named Carter and Piper and Hunter and Harper. It’s also true that some of those names tend to be used for girls; others lean towards the boys. Last year, nearly 800 boys and just under 50 girls were named Porter. That means this is a relatively uncommon name that may be perceived as masculine, and could easily trend higher for boys.

I’m never sure how to think about this. On the one hand, I can make the case for unisex names, especially when they nod to women of accomplishment, like the Porters on your list. And Piper feels thoroughly feminine, which has led to the rise of names like Parker and Palmer for our daughters. Why not Porter?

On the other hand, Porter makes Tatum seem much more like a unisex surname-name choice, and that makes me wonder if naming a third child (if that’s even a remote possibility) would be tougher. Tatum and Porter’s sister might be Sloane or Crosby or Kensington or Emery, but not so much Lucy or June … or even Phoebe.

Which brings us to Phoebe. I think it sounds great with Tatum, and sidesteps the potentially masculine vibe of Porter. Though, of course, Phoebe doesn’t honor strong women. Or does it? Besides 90s television, my first association with Phoebe is Greek myth. Long associated with the moon, Phoebe was first a Titan, one of the primordial gods. Later, the name belonged to Phoebe’s descendant, Artemis, the goddess of the hunt. That’s a powerful association.

Also, do you know the story of Phoebe Couzins? She was one of the first female lawyers in the United States, and the very first woman to graduate from an American law school. As if that wasn’t enough, Couzins became the first female US Marshal.

There’s also philanthropist and suffrage Phoebe Hearst, as well as early aviator and stunt flyer Phoebe Omlie. While never too popular, Phoebe was in steady use in the late nineteenth and early twentieth centuries, so there are women of accomplishment by the name.

If not Porter or Phoebe, I wonder if you might consider:

Austen – For Jane. It’s tricky to recommend author names, I think. If you’re a fan, it works. If not, this one might fall flat. But Jane Austen reigns as a remarkably accomplished female author. And while Austin has been a Top 100 pick for boys in recent years, I think Austen works nicely for a daughter.

Cady – The downside? It will be misheard as Katie, every. single. time. The upside? Elizabeth Cady Stanton makes for a clear reference to a strong woman, plus most people will immediately get it once they hear your explanation – and never forget Cady’s name.

Emmeline – From British suffragette Emmeline Pankhurst, another reference that isn’t instantly recognized, but seems pretty clear.

Georgia – As in the artist, Georgia O’Keefe. It feels like a sister name for Phoebe. Though, of course, Georgia might feel too much like a reference to all those regal Georges.

Maret – When it comes to traditional feminine names, it’s tough to top Mary and Margaret. Dozens of distinguished women answer to both. Maret is typically listed as a contracted form of Margaret, though I’ve seen it linked to Mary, too. So that makes Maret traditionalish, but thoroughly modern in sound, a sister for Tatum. If there’s a Margaret or Mary or two that you love, would that work?

Maya – Here’s the thing: Maya has ranked in the US Top 100 for fifteen years. You probably know a few. And yet, it still doesn’t feel too common, at least to my ear. And the reference to Maya Angelou might appeal. (I recommended Angelou to a mom years ago, too – wonder if she seriously considered it?) There’s also designer Maya Lin, architect of the Vietnam and Civil Rights memorials.

Sojourner – Sojourner Truth re-named herself as an adult, believing that her name was determined by God. (Her birth name is listed as Isabella.) She’s a towering figure, and her name feels decidedly modern. A sojourner is a traveler, though it’s a rather poetic, even archaic term. Tourist and visitor aren’t names, but Sojourner? That works.

Overall, I’m leaning slightly towards Phoebe – if only because of the (theoretical) third child question. Though I’m also wondering if you’d like Truth as a middle name? I love the sound of Phoebe Truth, but I think it works with lots of first name possibilities.

But let’s do two things: first, let’s have a poll.

 

And now, let’s open it up to suggestions. Readers, what are your best names to honor strong women?

 

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Comments

  1. Maddison says

    August 29, 2018 at 5:13 AM

    I am begging you – please use Porter. Your story behind it is wonderful and Phoebe & Tatum don’t quite go. Also selfishly I want it to get slightly more popular for girls.

    If you want another choice let me recommend Cady after famous suffragette Elizabeth Cady Stanton. Cady Phoebe & Tatum Scout would be lovely. Though I still like Porter best.

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  2. Em says

    August 17, 2018 at 2:18 AM

    Why not Harper since you love surnames and you clearly love Haroer Lee’s work. Scout and Harper would be a nice connection between your girls.

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  3. Kim Apathy Stewart says

    August 17, 2018 at 1:58 AM

    Porter feels so heavy and clunky to me, not feminine at all. And as a overweight woman, I would not want a name that close to both portly and porker. I know all names can be made fun of, but the sounds are so similar that I wouldn’t want even the associations with them.

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  4. Laura says

    August 15, 2018 at 11:46 PM

    What about Haven, Harbor, or Daphne (du Maurier)? Or Lamarr (Hedy)?

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  5. Simon says

    August 15, 2018 at 1:05 PM

    As far as female author names go, I like Bronte, especially with its meaning association with thunder, which is powerful and cool.

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  6. Amy3 says

    August 15, 2018 at 11:43 AM

    I love Phoebe and it complements Tatum nicely. I agree with those who have suggested Phoebe Porter. I think that’s perfect. Good luck with your baby!

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  7. Hillary says

    August 15, 2018 at 2:18 AM

    I like Carson, referencing the novelist Carson McCullers who wrote The Heart is a Lonely Hunter or biologist Rachel Carson who wrote Silent Spring. I also think Eliot, for George Eliot is nice.

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  8. nattylove11 says

    August 15, 2018 at 12:59 AM

    Thank you, Abby — this is such a great help! I especially liked seeing the list of strong/notable women named Phoebe through out history. You are so on the mark – my husband and I had considered “Cady” as a middle name. I appreciate all of these comments too from the community – a big, big, thank you!!

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  9. Renée says

    August 14, 2018 at 9:53 PM

    I voted for Phoebe. I think it’s fresh and lovely and a great sister name with Tatum.
    If Tatum Scout got her middle from a character from To Kill A Mochingbird, I’m wondering if there’s a key character in Pollyanna that would make a good middle for phoebe??….
    Phoebe Pollyanna is good but not sure if you’d like or dislike PP imtitals…
    Maybe Phoebe Kathryn or Phoebe Kate as a nod to Katherine Anne Porter… Phoebe Kate has a great ring to it.
    I also loved Pollyanna as a child, it’s such a great story. 🙂

    Good luck on the name and Congrats on baby 2!!

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  10. Alli B says

    August 14, 2018 at 8:57 PM

    My issue with Phoebe is that if I saw a sibling name set of Tatum and Phoebe I’d assume it’s boy/girl.

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  11. Jaime says

    August 14, 2018 at 8:39 PM

    Meant to suggest Merritt if Phoebe Porter doesn’t appeal but forgot to add that part.

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  12. Jaime says

    August 14, 2018 at 8:37 PM

    Why not use Phoebe Porter? Putting the special significance name in the middle is what you did with Tatum Scout and I see no reason to change the format here. Tatum and Phoebe are darling together!

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  13. Em says

    August 14, 2018 at 6:33 PM

    Walker (for Alice Walker)

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    • appellationmountain says

      August 15, 2018 at 9:03 AM

      Love that suggestion!

      Reply
  14. Zena Eve says

    August 14, 2018 at 6:29 PM

    Portia came to mind.

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  15. The Mrs. says

    August 14, 2018 at 3:42 PM

    A gentle cautionary tale:
    A fellow we knew in high school had the last name of Porter. His unasked for nickname?
    Porterhouse…as in the steak. He was overweight, too.

    For this reason alone, I she away from Porter.
    Phoebe Porter sounds excellent, though.

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  16. Sadie says

    August 14, 2018 at 12:36 PM

    I’m usually not a fan of Porter, but I like all the meaning behind it for you and think it goes well with Tatum. Amelia or Mae could make cute middle names after Amelia Earhart or Mae Jemison. Also love the suggestion of Georgia, which brings out the spunkiness of Tatum for me.

    Also thought of …

    Ellis (for Ellis Island)
    Hadley
    Harriet (Tubman, the Spy), nn Hattie
    Marlow
    Marin (to honor any famous Mary, plus the sea connection with mariner)
    Quinn

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    • Natalie says

      August 14, 2018 at 2:15 PM

      Thanks for weighing in, Sadie! I also love the name Georgia but a close friend of mine has a daughter by that name. We have been thinking of Amelia as a middle — love your suggestions!

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    • appellationmountain says

      August 15, 2018 at 9:02 AM

      Oh yes! Ellis is brilliant.

      Reply
  17. A. Waguespack says

    August 14, 2018 at 12:20 PM

    Phoebe Austen sounds nice. Name she loves plus female author.

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  18. Laura says

    August 14, 2018 at 11:55 AM

    I like Phoebe better as a name for my own daughter, but she gave so many powerful arguments explaining why she likes Porter that I think for their family Porter is the better fit.

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  19. Sargjo says

    August 14, 2018 at 11:37 AM

    Is it just me or is Phoebe Porter Lastname the perfect solution? I know that it LOOKS like alliteration, but it doesn’t sound like it. All your bases are covered then!

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    • Megan says

      August 14, 2018 at 7:06 PM

      Except her name is then PP Lastname.

      Between the two, I pick Phoebe. Tatum is unusual but not unheard of. Porter, on the other hand, is really rare to me, especially for a female name. Yet, Phoebe is familiar and more feminine than Tatum. It’s a conundrum, for sure.

      I’m all for unisex names though. What about Piper, Dale, Vaughn, Elliot, or Ryen?

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  20. maple says

    August 14, 2018 at 11:06 AM

    Definitely Phoebe! Not a fan of Porter for a boy or girl.

    Reply

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