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Name Help: First Boy, But Not Brian

April 30, 2021 By appellationmountain 16 Comments

Name Help: Middle Name BrianName Help is a series at Appellation Mountain. Every week, one reader’s name questions will be discussed.

We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!

Taylor writes:

My husband and I are expecting our first child very soon – in June! We’re completely stuck on names.

Most of this is because my dream of a mother-in-law is obsessed with the idea that we’ll name him Brian, after my father-in-law.

When she first suggested it (over FaceTime, because of course we haven’t seen them in a year), we both sort of thought she was kidding. But it’s come up again and again, and she’s even referred to him as “little Brian” a few times.

At first we agreed that Brian maybe, possibly, might be the middle name. And now we’ve sort of decided it should be. But we agree that it’s just not his first name.

My husband, James, is named after his grandfather, so the idea isn’t completely out of the blue.

I’m not crazy about my super-trendy 90s name, and sharing it with a huge celebrity has been a mixed bag. But then, of course, I had to go and marry a man named James. (Jimmy/Jim as a child, but James by the time I met him.) And now we’re James and Taylor.

Ugh.

We want our son’s name to be a traditional name that everyone recognizes, that isn’t too trendy like my name, that isn’t too common like my husband’s name, and ideally won’t have a nickname. (Because my husband really dislikes it when people assume he’s Jimmy/Jim.)

And … it can’t be Brian, but it probably should work with Brian as a middle name. Names we mostly like, like Dylan, don’t sound great with Brian.

The baby’s last name will be tussle-with-an-R.

Can you help?

Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Abby replies:

Congratulations on your new son!

It sounds like his middle name is set.

And while it’s sometimes infuriating to have a family name thrust upon you, it seems like you’re open to this one and accepting it gracefully – even if it’s been a little awkward along the way.

So we’re looking for a name that fits in the first spot: _____ Brian Tussle-with-an-R.

And it should be traditional, nickname-proof, and not too popular, right?

I’m wondering if you’re thinking of classic-classic names, like Peter or Edward? Or if your list is broader, encompassing names with roots, but not used in big numbers until recently, more like Beckett? I’ll mix a little of both in this list.

Because both Brian and your surname are two-syllable names, it might also be good to consider shorter or longer firsts. It’s not a must – and I haven’t stuck to the rule in my suggestions! – but it can making for a pleasing rhythm.

FIRST NAMES TO GO WITH BRIAN

ANTHONY

Of course, Anthony can be shortened – a generation of Tonys promises us that. But an Anthony born today would share a playground with Sebastian-not-Seb and William-not-Will. The only little Anthony I know is about eight and has only ever been Anthony. It’s terribly dashing in full – in fact, it’s the name of the eldest Bridgerton brother.

BROOKS

I wouldn’t call Brooks classic in the James-Joseph-William sense, but it feels traditional, probably thanks to all those navy blue Brooks Brothers blazers. Brooks Brian is kind of fun to say together, too.

EVERETT

Just inside the current US Top 100, Everett fits with names like Oliver and Beckett. It’s current, but rooted in the past. And it’s rarely shortened.

JESSE

A Hebrew name meaning gift, Jesse has a long history of use, but a very contemporary sound. It’s tough to pin Jesse to any single decade – a hallmark of a traditional name.

JUDE

The first version of this list included Luke … until I said “Luke Brian” together, as in the country singer. But Jude has the same qualities – brief, complete, and distinctive.

MAX

There are so many handsome Max names, but it’s the three-letter original that remains most popular – but not too popular – in the US. It’s brief and complete, a name that requires no lengthening and permits no shortening. And while it’s current in the twenty-first century, it’s never really fallen out of use, either.

SAMUEL

Pretty much every Samuel is a Sam, without exception. And some Sams really are just Sam. There’s also a handful named Samson or Samir. But my gut tells me that Samuel-called-Sam actually satisfies the spirit of your rules, if not the letter. It’s a handsome, down-to-earth, accessible kind of name that’s surprisingly versatile, as right for a surgeon as it is for an artist.

THEO

I’ll take the opposite approach here, and suggest Theo rather than Theodore. (Though much of the same logical applies with Theo/Theodore and Sam/Samuel.) The bright ‘o’ ending feels modern and unexpected. But no one could ever call Theo anything but a traditional favorite.

Overall, my favorite for you is Brooks Brian Tussle-with-an-R. But that’s based on the whole flow of the name. Plus, Brooks hits the nickname-proof mark exactly. But maybe Brooks feels a little less traditional than you’d like? In that case, my vote goes to Sam, even though I suspect you’d probably opt for Samuel Brian Tussle-with-an-R.

Readers, what would you suggest for a traditional(ish), nickname-proof first to go with the middle name Brian?

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Comments

  1. Erin Beth says

    May 1, 2021 at 5:57 AM

    I like the suggestion of Conor. Also:

    Dermot B. Tussle
    Cormac B. Tussle
    Rory B. Tussle
    Reid B. Tussle
    Desmond B. Tussle
    Emmet B. Tussle
    Elliott B. Tussle
    Dashiell B. Tussle
    Avery B. Tussle
    Graham B. Tussle
    Cole B. Tussell

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  2. Em says

    April 30, 2021 at 10:47 PM

    Austin
    Flynn
    Reese
    Caleb
    Elliott
    Miles
    Jasper

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  3. lashleyr says

    April 30, 2021 at 7:30 PM

    Lots of good suggestions, including using a variation of Brian or another name that nods to Grandpa.

    To go with middle name Brian, maybe
    Carter Brian _ussle
    Leo Brian _ussle
    Levi Brian _ussle

    Or Cyrus (you get a -rus Rus- with the last name, but it doesnt bother me), Silas, Hugo, Adam, Errol, Henry/Harry, Felix, Harvey (two of these are my own kids names and lots are from our Didn’t Get to Use list!)

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  4. Linnea says

    April 30, 2021 at 4:23 PM

    Wesley Brian
    Zachary Brian
    Evan Brian
    Maxwell (Max) Brian
    Lucas (Luke) Brian
    Garrett Brian

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  5. C in DC says

    April 30, 2021 at 4:15 PM

    I would veer away from Brooks or other surnamy-style names, because with Tussell as a last name, people will likely see Tussell as the first name.

    Matthew Brian/Matthias Brian
    Andrew Brian/Andre Brian/Andreas Brian
    Kenneth Brian
    Lazlo Brian
    Luther Brian
    Lucas Brian
    Joseph Brian/Jose Brian
    George Brian
    Dominic Brian

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  6. Istas says

    April 30, 2021 at 1:11 PM

    Adam
    Seth
    Clark
    Ezra
    Hector
    Paul
    Ronan
    Xavier
    Eli
    Reuben
    Abel
    Gavin

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  7. Renée says

    April 30, 2021 at 12:32 PM

    If you want a tweak on Brian (like Bryant suggested above, love it) – how about Byron? Traditional, uncommon, pretty nickname-proof. Here are no-nickname one-syllable names for best flow with the 2-2 middle/last.
    Pierce
    Dane (love that you’d all have strong A sounds in your names)
    Scott
    Todd
    Bruce (love alliteration and superhero!)

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  8. Lauren Steenkamp says

    April 30, 2021 at 12:01 PM

    How do you feel about Bryant (nickname Brian) as a first name? It works with the baby’s future last name, and also honours paternal grandpa. Bryant is a variation of Brian, however it’s more commonly used as a last name than a first

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  9. Megan says

    April 30, 2021 at 11:22 AM

    I second Hugh/Hugo, Felix and Grant. I would also like to throw in Seamus, Hamish, and Jaime

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  10. Alison Doherty says

    April 30, 2021 at 10:32 AM

    From this list I love Anthony, Max, or Samuel. I’d also like to through in Hugh, Phillip, Elliot, Caleb, and Collin is relatively nickname proof classics.

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  11. Nathalia says

    April 30, 2021 at 10:30 AM

    Hugo, Arlo, Graham, Cole, Riley, Roman (I like the alliteration with the last name), Mark, Felix, Clark, Arthur, Harry, George.

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  12. Iris says

    April 30, 2021 at 10:27 AM

    Louis Brian …ussell
    Magnus Brian …ussell
    Edmund Brian …ussell
    Connor Brian …ussell
    Hugo Brian …ussell
    Garrett Brian …ussell
    Elliott Brian …ussell
    Oliver Brian …ussell
    Isaac Brian …ussell

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  13. Kate says

    April 30, 2021 at 10:13 AM

    What about Dylan Grandpa’s-middle-name? We gave my firstborn his grandfather’ middle as a middle and it surprises me how meaningful my FIL continues to find this, several years later. It’s maybe less of an honor name and more of a bonding name, a more private name they share.

    I also like the idea of Henry or Alec for you. Best of luck navigating an awkward situation! It sound like you’re on your way to finding a great solution!

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    • Ducky says

      May 6, 2021 at 2:23 PM

      I love this description, “A bonding name”. I feel like, sometimes, that’s what people really are looking for, when they want to use a name that’s meaningful to someone else but not use that person’s name exactly.

      Reply
  14. keats says

    April 30, 2021 at 8:26 AM

    What about Grant? Timeless and classic without being stodgy. Grant Brian “Tussle”. Grant “Tussel”.

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  15. Megan says

    April 30, 2021 at 8:17 AM

    This namerology article might have exactly what you’re looking for, and I LOVE Jesse.

    https://namerology.com/2020/02/06/americas-100-steadiest-names/

    These names aren’t necessarily popular, they just have consistent use through history.

    From here I think Peter, Victor, Oscar, and Marshall are quite nice with Brian.

    Reply

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