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Name Help: A Sister for Teagan and Sloane

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Name Help: A Sister for Teagan and Sloane

Name Help is a series at Appellation Mountain. Every week, one reader’s name questions will be discussed.

We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!

Melissa writes:

We have two daughters, Teagan Mary and Sloane Melissa. Our third daughter is due early in the new year, and we’re not coming up with a name we can agree on.

My husband wants to name this daughter after his mom, Ellen, who passed away earlier this year. Mary honors my grandmother, so I feel like what he’s asking is fair. But I can’t imagine a daughter named Ellen, or at least I can’t imagine our daughter being named Ellen.

I offered it as a middle name, but we like the idea of all of our children having M middles, because we both come from M families.

Names we considered for our older daughters include Hadley, Darby, Quinn, and Payton. My new favorite is Delaney, and I also like Parker and Emerson.

Our last name is three syllables, starts with W, ends with -r, which is why we’ve never seriously thought about Harper or Piper, though I’m beginning to reconsider whether that’s really as big a deal as I thought it was.

Would love to get some new ideas for names that we can both love.

Please read on for my response, and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Dear Melissa –

Congratulations on your third daughter!

Here’s the challenge: no name, no matter how perfect, will solve your current dilemma. Your problem comes down to this: he says Ellen. Your response? No, not Ellen.

There’s no reason Teagan and Sloane couldn’t have a sister called Ellen. It’s a different style – demure and classically feminine, instead of the bolder, unisex choices you made for your older daughters. Would others remark on it, maybe even guessing (correctly) that it’s a family name? Maybe. But none of that means you can’t use it.

What does matter is that Ellen doesn’t sound like your daughter’s name, and that means it really has to be off the table.

That leaves a few options:

  1. Start completely fresh, with no thought of using Ellen in this child’s name.
  2. Choose Ellen as her middle name, even if breaks your all-M middle pattern.
  3. Try to incorporate some reference to Ellen in her first name.

My sense is that #2 or #3 feels far more like a compromise that the first approach. It’s where you’re stuck, right?

Happily, I think there are tons of possible surname-style names with a strong El- sound.

Would you consider:

Ellery – Because Delaney is your frontrunner, maybe another three-syllable, ends-with-y name that starts with the Ell- sound makes for the best of both worlds?

Elliot, Elliott – We tend to hear them as boys’ names, but Elliot – one T or two – originated as a surname, based on the Biblical Elijah. Writer George Eliot spelled it with a single L and T, but that’s quite rare today. While it’s more common for a boy, all spellings are seen for girls, too.

Ellis – Like Elliot, Ellis also comes from Elijah. It might be the closest option to Ellen, requiring just a tweak of the ending sound to make it a sister for Teagan and Sloane.

Ellison – Because Emerson is on your list, how about Ellison? It reminds me strongly of Allison, which is probably one of the reason it’s fared well for girls in recent years.

Now, about your -r ending question: I don’t think a name like, say, Piper Hunsaker is a deal-breaker. In fact, they can be rather memorable. But I’m not sure any of the El- options work well. There’s Ellender – which means newcomer. It’s the middle name of actor Blake Lively. But, in this case, I think Ellender Hunsaker – two three-syllable names, both with an -r ending – do sound a little awkward.

So let’s go back to the names I’ve suggested already. Ellison came to  mind immediately, and I think it’s still my favorite.

But all four of these are rich with possibility, and there may be others I’ve neglected, too.

Readers, what would you suggest to Melissa for Teagan and Sloane’s sister?

More names you might like:

Comments

  1. My first thought was ‘Melanie’ — perhaps as a middle? It gets both the ‘M’ and the ‘Ellen’ — you could even spell it ‘Melleny’ or ‘Mellenie’. And then I saw that you liked ‘Delaney’ and it felt like an even more apt suggestion!

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  2. I think PIper would sound perfect next to Teagan and Sloane but agree your surname may not blend well with Piper. Arwen, Brinley, Payton, Ayla, or Romilly may be good choices. As far as Ellen why not work it in as additional name ? Like Delaney Maxine Ellen W****r for example.

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  3. you could invert the pattern and pick an m first name and use ellen as the middle:
    Maeve Ellen
    Morghan Ellen
    Mina Ellen
    Madeleine Ellen
    Meredith Ellen
    Margaret Ellen

    or name her ellen but use a nickname. I know an eloise whom everyone calls ella, probably named for a family member: Ella, Ellie, and Elle could all be nicknames for ellen.

    or name her ellen with an m middle name and call her the middle name:
    Ellen Maeve called Maeve
    Ellen Margaret called Maggie

    good luck!

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  5. Why not use a slightly different spelling of Ellen such as the Welsh and Scandinavian Elin ? Elin Miranda would be my choice.

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  6. My mother-in-law passed away while I was pregnant with our youngest. We ended up putting her name in the middle. It doesn’t match the style or pattern of our older girls’ middles (single syllable virtue names that expand on the meanings of their first names), but it felt more important to honor Mom than to keep the pattern, and the idea of using it as a first name (besides not being our style) was painful while the grief was so fresh.

    So, if I were in your shoes, I would either give up the M thing or do a double middle (as in Delany Ellen Marie or Harper Mae Ellen)

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  8. I like Ellison! I also like Bellamy. I first heard of it when I watched scandal. ‘Belle or Bella’ for nicknames!

    Here are some other ideas:

    Elena or Eleni Marie (nickname Leni)
    Ellisyn Malia
    Leighton Mae Ellen
    Ellen Mattea (go by Mattea – one of my faves right now)
    Ellenor Maci (nick name Elle, Elli, Ella or leni)
    Haelyn Marie
    Laikyn Marie-Ellen
    Quinn Ellen Marie
    Haven Elina
    Minka Ellen
    Taylen Marie (maybe too close to Teagen)
    Tatum Ellamarie
    Kellen Marisa
    Keegan Ella (my best friend’s daughter).
    Eliana Marie
    Kennedy or Kenna May Ellen

    I think May Ellen is a cute combo for a double middle name – and not too long.

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  9. Another vote for Nelle. It’s not quite as unisex as Teagan and Sloane, but it isn’t overly frilly and would work well with the sister’s names.
    Although if I had my heart set on Delaney (which is such a great name) I would skip the M middle name and give her the name Ellen there. I don’t think she would feel left out: “everyone had M middle names but then we lost your very special grandma, so you got her special name instead.”
    My third thought is to name her something like Ellen Marlowe, and call her Marlowe. I think I like that idea best actually.

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  11. Nelle is a sweet solution (if you like the name). Or perhaps Elin or Elian or Elan might fit better: Teagan, Sloane & Elian.
    Delaney has ‘Elan’ right there in it, if that feels like enough of a connection for your husband.

    I also tagree it might help to re-imagine the pattern of your children’s names:

    Maybe it’s not ‘everyone has an ‘m’ middle name’, but everyone has at least one ‘m’ name (as others have suggested). Maybe this daughter is Mika Ellen, or Marley Ellen or Morgan Ellen or Madigan Ellen, etc. Or maybe she gets a second middle, and she’s Quinn Marcy-Ellen or Delaney Ellen Maeve or Parker Ellen Marlo, etc.

    Or maybe it’s ‘every child has a family middle name and a first name ending in a ‘n’ sound’ (and she’s Peyton Ellen or Addison Elena etc).

    Or ‘a family middle name and a strong ‘m’ sound somewhere’ ( and she’s Amery Elle or Emerson Ellen or Camber Ellen etc).

    You wouldn’t be ‘ruining’ the pattern – the pattern would evolving as your family grows. The pattern fits around your life, not the other way to go. This would give you a bit more range should you have more children in the future.

    Or perhaps you could work ‘Ellen’ into an ‘m’ middle name:
    Madelena/Madellena?
    Magdelena/Magdellena?
    Marcella/ Marcelle/ Marcelen/Marcellen?
    Maelle/Maellen/Mae-Ellen?
    Mellena/ Melena?
    Michelle/ Michellen?
    Melanie? Marielle? Mabelle? Magellen?

    Good luck!

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  12. Some combinations I love for you:
    Ellery Mae
    Ellery Maeve
    Ellery Maura
    Ellery Madeline
    Delaney Ellen
    Mallory Ellen

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  13. How about Ellery Lynn (E.Lynn)
    It’s a twist on, but still honoring Ellen. 🙂

    My other favorite is Delaney Ellen.

    I hope you find a name you both love! Good luck and congrats on baby number 3!!

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  15. What about writing it backwards? It becomes Nelle like Nelle Harper Lee, the author of To Kill A Mockingbird. Nelle is an old nickname for Ellen too, keeping it true to the intent. I like Nelle Maren with your sibset.

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  16. Without considering your guidelines, I instantly thought this name would be a PERFECT fit with your two girls!

    Hennessy

    Infusing Ellen into a name… “ell”

    Possibly

    Adelle/Adele/adellyn
    Ellette
    Laurell/laurel
    Ellwyn
    Mirabell
    Nellwynn
    Odella
    Trella
    Stellen
    Pellam
    Syddell
    Anwell
    Ardell
    Averell
    Attwell
    Bellamy
    Campbell
    Donnelly
    Ellery
    Avellen
    Dellancy
    Wyndell
    Wendell
    Videll
    Sheldon
    Shelby
    Sellwyn
    Rosellen/Roselyn
    Paella
    Lovell
    Lowell
    Lydell
    Llewelyn
    Lyndell
    Leland
    kendell
    Keller
    Fidell
    Dellaney
    Odelyn

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    • I think it’s extremely important both to honor “Ellen” and keep your “M” middles. Don’t waiver.
      Awesome also to keep the gender neutral vibe with an Irish feel…?

      My personal faves would be one of these paired with a M middle

      Ellwyn
      Stellen
      Bellamy
      Donnelly
      Dellancy
      Lovell
      Llewelyn
      Lyndell
      Keller

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      • One could argue however that perhaps the m middle intital pattern holds less priority to them now that a loved one has passed away. That idea may have had more appeal before, but as time passes sometimes priorities change. I think it’s important for the two of them to talk it over and decide what means the most to both of them in naming now, and try to find a common ground that leaves both parents feeling included and happy. 🙂

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  17. My favourite of Abby’s suggestion’s is Ellery!
    Depending on how comfortable you feel with Ellen honour names being a stretch you could branch out even further to names with less obvious connection. Stealing the “ell” part like, Connelly, Bellamy, or Briallen.
    Miel, like honey, is a M-name that also contains the “ell” element, but maybe a less bold choice could be like Marell, or Meryl.

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  18. I’d vote to reframe the theme of the middle names from M middle names to family middle names and then Ellen is great there. I really like Darby Ellen and Delaney Ellen.

    If you are more committed to the M theme than using Ellen unchanged, then my vote is for Elliott or Ellison.

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  19. Ellison would probably be my top choice for you. It nods to Ellen, while it still keeps that style you’ve established with your older daughters.

    However, Eleni came to mind. It’s has the same roots as Ellen and sounds similar to Delaney. It may be of a slightly different style than Teagan and Sloane, but I think it could work. 🙂

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  20. I was reading your letter thinking Ellery (!) so happy it was the first suggestion. I also like the suggestion above of Elle. I think both work well with Teagan and Sloane. My only other suggestion is using the M name up front to flip the theme, with Ellen in the middle. Mills, Marlowe, Merrick, Morrow, Morley, Monroe, Murphy…

    Not using Ellen up front wouldn’t honour her memory any less. It’s hard when the grief is so new. Our younger daughter has a first name almost verbatim her great grandmother’s first name (born on the same day) and last year she passed away. It’s been bittersweet. We feel like long-term it’s beautful that her name lives on so blatantly, but it was hard for awhile for my MIL to say her name – she is still using a nickname for the most part.

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  21. Ellis jumped out at me! I love that it has the same tailored, unisex quality as your older daughters’ names, and it really does sounds quite a lot like Ellen. It’s a lovely way to honor your MIL while sticking to your style. It gets my vote!

    If that feels like too loose a connection to her name, perhaps you could shift your pattern slightly to make Ellen her middle name, and give her a first name that starts with M as a nod to your M family names.

    Marley Ellen
    McKenzie Ellen
    McKinley Ellen
    Macy Ellen
    Maeve Ellen

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  22. Does it have to be Ellen? Both of my daughters have middles honoring their great grandmothers but for my oldest I used my grandmothers middle name. You could also use a maiden name or a nickname they went by. I like Delaney, Ellery or Ellison with this sibset.

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  23. I like Ellis and Ellison best for you. I think it’s just the right compromise, assuming you both agree.

    Another direction you could go is to see if you could use the letters of Ellen to make a name you like tgat fits your style. This isn’t quite the letters, but close…what about Leni?

    Another thought is to combine Ellen plus M middle name to get to a name you’d love. For example, Ellen Mercy or Ellen Marisol could go by Emerson every day.

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  24. What about simply “Elle”? More popular than Teagan and Sloane, yes, but more in-keeping with them than Ellen – and includes four-fifths of her departed grandmom’s name! You could take it further with a middle name that starts with N. “Ellen” would be in there, in full!

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  25. What if you found an M name you liked as a first name, clearing the middle spot for Ellen?

    Some options could be:

    Mallory
    Margot
    Marlowe
    Monroe
    Maeve

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  26. My first thought was Nelle which is Ellen backwards. It may have a slightly different feel than Teagan or Sloane but I really like it as a sister name.

    Kellen seems more modern and unisex than Ellen. Maybe that would work.

    If you used Ellen as a first name could you call her by her middle? For example Ellen Marlow, Ellen Mallory, or Ellen Madigan

    One thought that’s a bit out there would be to give her a name with an L and and an N. LN=Ellen. Ex. Larkin or Linden

    Love the other suggestions of how to tweak Ellen. Other ideas:
    Evan
    Ellie
    Elissa

    Good Luck!

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