We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!
I’m expecting a boy next month, my first. It sounds a little crazy, but I’m having nightmares about not being allowed to bring him home because we can’t decide on a name.
My husband has a daughter from an earlier marriage, Chloe Katherine. She’s eleven. Because she’s older and doesn’t live with us except for a few weeks in the summer, I don’t think we need to match her name in any specific way, but it would be nice if the names sounded good when we say them together.
So far, my husband’s only idea has been more C names: Caleb, Christopher, Corbin, Curtis. But I don’t think he’s really serious. He says that Chloe’s mom chose her name, and he will be happy with whatever I choose.
I know that probably sounds great, but it doesn’t help, because I like about a hundred names and I don’t find any of them special enough to be my son’s name.
Here’s my list after I cut it down to the ones that I like the most.
The only thing I know for sure is that I want a name that’s not too popular/too different and sounds good with his last name, which sounds like Haf-ner.
Here’s my list – please help!
- Theo (don’t like Theodore)
Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.
Congratulations on your son!
It can be tough to comb through a long list. It’s great that you’ve already cut it in half – more than half! Now it’s time to do another cut.
We’re looking for names that work with a sister called Chloe and a surname that sounds like Haf-ner. It seems like you’re looking for a mainstream name that’s familiar and current, but not too, too popular.
On that basis, I think we should cut:
Cooper, Jasper, Oscar, Parker, Wilder – because the -R ending conflicts with the -R ending of your surname
Alden, Andrew, Scott, Simon, Zachary – I think these are all great names, but maybe a little outside the mainstream.
Leo, Theo, Hudson, Isaac, Levi, Kai, Owen – And these are, again, fabulous names – but maybe slightly more popular than you’d like.
From this list, I’m going to pick eight favorites and share why – though it’s tough, because many of the others feel like equally good choices!
Like Chloe, Arlo is one of those names of the moment. It’s rising in use, shares lots of sounds with current favorites, and has a sort of cool energy without feeling like a name that’s too different.
I think Bennett strikes a perfect balance between traditional Benjamin and more novel names, like Jett.
The advantage of another C name: it shortens your list. A lot! In this case, if you decide that another C name works best, Crew is the only name left (after Cooper was dropped because of the repeating ending sound with your surname.) Chloe and Crew are great together, and I think Crew Haf-ner is perfect, too.
On paper, maybe Dylan is a little too common? It’s been a Top 100 name for a while. But I like the way Dylan feels midway between the most classic of boy names – the Williams and Jameses of the world – and the more trending picks, the Masons and the Jacksons.
No question that Knox is a rising name. And yet, somehow, I think it’s more like Dylan than Jayden. It has the history and roots of a more traditional choice.
An Old Testament name, Micah feels like an update to Michael, an alternative to popular Biblical choices like Elijah.
A high-energy name and a twenty-first century staple, Rowan is an accessible, versatile name.
A surname name with a long history as a first, Wesley is a little bit like Dylan. It’s popular, but not wildly overused. And it falls somewhere between James and Jackson.
Overall, I’m sort of rooting for Crew. If you decide that choosing another C name is worth considering, then your list gets instantly shorter. Plus, you have a good reason for your choice! Chloe and Crew are great together, and I really do like the way Crew Haf-ner sounds. Maybe Crew Wesley or Crew Everett?
Though I wonder if a C middle name would satisfy? Because I’m equally tempted to suggest Knox Christopher … and I just realized that makes his initials the reverse of his sister’s initials!