welcome BonnieThey went with Bonnie! Sarah writes: Sorry it took so long for the update, but wanted to let you know that all of the comments reassured us. Bonnie is beautiful and I can’t imagine her with another name! People have brought up Bonnie and Clyde and My Bonnie Lies Over the Ocean and Toy Story … but no one (including my sister!) has mentioned Gone With the Wind. Thanks so much to everyone who took the time to comment!

Sarah writes:

My partner and I are expecting our first child in August. We were pretty sure we’d name her Bonnie. It’s not a family name or anything like that. It’s just the name we keep coming back to.

But I mentioned it to my sister, who is really my best friend, and she asked if I was worried people would think it was racist.

She told me that Bonnie is the daughter in Gone With the Wind and that she’s named after the Confederate flag.

Now I’m not sure what to do. We would never even consider a name insulting or demeaning to anyone.

But is this really for real? I’ve been trying to ask friends without revealing that it’s our favorite name, but it’s impossible.

Our second-favorite name is Daisy, but good friends just named their baby Daisy, and we hope that we’ll see a lot of them, which that’s possible again.

Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Abby replies:


It’s one thing to hear “I don’t care for that name.” But it’s something completely different to hear “that name might indicate that you are a horrible human being.”

It sounds like your sister was speaking out of love and concern.

And yet … I have a hard time seeing her point. Let’s unpack this.


Yes, Bonnie is Scarlett and Rhett’s daughter in Gone With the Wind. Her name is explained in both the book and the movie. Scarlett insists on the rather grand formal name Eugenia Victoria. But Melanie – Scarlett’s sister-in-law – notes that the baby’s eyes are blue.

As blue as the bonnie blue flag.

The nickname immediately sticks, and she’s Bonnie for the rest of the movie.

So. Yeah. Not great.

Point of fact: I’ve known this bit of trivia forever, but until I read your question I didn’t think about it. The flag I think of as the symbol of the Confederacy is mostly red, right? Turns out there was a specific flag associated with the Confederacy known as the Bonnie Blue, as well as a song.

Plausibly, children might have been named Bonnie as a nod to the Confederacy, just as some were named after generals and commanding officers.

The book was published in 1936, and the movie followed in 1939. They’re both nearly a century old, and showing their age – badly.

That also means that relatively few people in their 30s are familiar with the story. I’d wager that even fewer can name Scarlett and Rhett’s daughter.

And only a tiny handful can tell you why she was named Bonnie.


Bonnie is a Scottish word meaning pretty, adopted as a nickname and then given name.

It predated the book and movie.

In the year 1900, the baby name Bonnie ranked #212. By the late 1920s, when Margaret Mitchell was beginning work on her novel, Bonnie entered the US Top 100.

Of course, the Civil War began in 1861 and ended in 1865. There’s no consistent US data from that era, but a random search of census records pulls up handfuls of Bonnies from the early 1800s. Some appear earlier still.

For his 1600 play Much Ado About Nothing, Shakespeare penned a song titled “Sigh No More,” including the instruction to “be you blithe and bonny.”

So pretty, carefree Bonnie has been around for ages, not necessarily as a given name. But it was certainly a given name well before the problematic reference in Gone With the Wind. 


But I’m not sure ANY of this matters.

Because here’s the thing: we keep naming our daughters Scarlett.

Not in little numbers, either. Scarlett entered the US Top 100 in 2011. It ranks #21 of as 2019.

That’s really, really popular.

Unlike Bonnie, Scarlett wasn’t on anybody’s radar as a given name prior to Gone With the Wind. Margaret Mitchell actually named the character Katie Scarlett – easy to miss in the movie, but explained in the book – after her paternal grandmother. Scarlett started out as a surname.

The same applies to Rhett. As of 2019, Rhett ranks #165, and it continues to climb the charts.

Plenty of people who have never read the book or watched the movie can identify the main characters at the center of Gone With the Wind. Those characters owned slaves, benefited from the slave-based economy, and fought to preserve it. Bonnie, of course, was a child – one born after the end of the Civil War, fictionally speaking.

If Scarlett remains as wearable as Juliet or any other romantic heroine, then Bonnie?

All of this makes me say that Bonnie is just fine. 

At the same time, I want to tread lightly. Just because I can’t see it doesn’t mean it isn’t so.

Except … if a reference this minor can torpedo a name? I think that’s really an issue. Because most names have been worn by good and bad – and mostly just downright ordinary – people over many decades and even centuries. Measuring names against that yardstick – no bad people, ever – would be exhausting. And probably impossible.

Readers, am I missing anything? Would you name a daughter Bonnie? Or, more specifically, would you refrain from using the name Bonnie because of the Gone With the Wind connection?

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  1. Scarlett has been among the top baby names a lot over the last 10 years and it’s both surprising and concerning to me. I read Gone with the Wind not long after Treyvon Martin’s murder, having no idea how racist the book would be. I was threw it across the room in absolute disgust more times than I can count. THIS is the book so many liberal white women loved not that long ago? Anyway, I never thought of Bonnie as racist. I think of Scotland, like the Bonnie Bonnie Banks of Loch Lomond or Bonnie Prince Charlie.

  2. Data points
    -age to be having kids
    -have never read or watched GWTW, although I know the plot, and mean to eventually

    When I saw the title of this post, I thought it was going to be about (somehow) being racist to Scottish people, and I was thinking “What, so Colleen is going to be racist to Irish people next, or something?” The fact that it’s the name of Scarlett’s daughter didn’t even cross my mind.

  3. I do not think the name Bonnie is racist. I don’t really think any name is racist. Of course some parents name their children to honor their neo-Nazi or Confederate heroes, but if you name your kid Davis because you like the name, are you a secret closet racist since the president of the Confederacy was Jefferson Davis? I don’t think so. He didn’t own the name. It’s not unique to him. Even though his name is still fairly widely remembered, I don’t think other people would assume Davis is an honor name for him. So I agree with Abby, we don’t have to strike every name off the list because some undesirable person held it previously. BTW pretty much every book written in the 1930s is “problematic” and offensive when viewed under a 2021 lens, but that doesn’t mean we have to banish every character’s name into oblivion, or that we can’t read those books anymore or even still look to them for name inspiration.

  4. Otherwise, a few suggestions of names similar to Bonnie, just in case the name loses its appeal…
    -Maisie (love it!)
    -Margaret, Maggie or Molly
    -Matilda or Tillie

    I even searched for names containing “bo” and there arent many! Good luck!
    Arbor (girl) Bobby (girl) Bodhi (girl) Bonita (girl) Bonnie (girl) Boston (girl) Bowie (girl) Deborah (girl) Ebony (girl) Rainbow (girl)

  5. I think Bonnie is a sweet and lovely name, and I agree with most here that it is safe to use! I am familiar with GWTW and never would have made the association to racism. I think of the My Bonny song as well first. The biggest hang up would be if your sister could get over it, if you care what your sister thinks, if she might have influence with your family… that being said I’m a big believer in not telling anyone the name you have officially chosen (sharing a group of names asking for feedback is A-ok) until baby is born and named. At that point, hopefully your family including your sister would just love the baby and accept the name, no matter what preconceived notions were there.

    One suggestion could be to go with a longer formal name and then use Bonnie as a nickname! Belinda, Bronwyn, Bernadette, Briony, Beatrice…