We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!
We have a 3 year old daughter named Amelia Louise, and our second is due next month. Somehow, I always thought we would have a girl and a boy, so we’d picked out Henry Alexander. But it’s a girl, and as much as I love the idea of Amelia having a sister, I’m kicking myself for using Louise as her middle name, because Louisa is my second-most favorite girl’s name.
My husband says we should use Louisa anyway. It’s not exactly the same name (but it is) and who would know? Or care if they did find out?
But I think my daughter might care that her name is a hand-me-down. And I like so many names that using the same one (really) twice seems wrong.
Here’s our list so far:
- Louisa Avery – Avery was his favorite for Amelia, but it’s not my style. Louisa is my second favorite name, but is it bad to repeat/get so close to repeating Amelia’s middle name?
- Lucille – My mom suggested it. I don’t love it as much, but I can see that it would work.
- Rose/Rosanne/Rosanna – My grandmother’s name was Roseanne, but she went by Rose, and my husband’s grandmothers were named Anna and Rose, which is such a sweet coincidence, but I’m not sure the names are my favorite.
- Penelope – A name that I just started to like. Husband says he likes it better than Lucille/Louisa.
Our last name sounds like Street-plus-er.
Please read on for my response and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.
Congratulations on your second!
It’s so hard when this happens. Of course giving your first daughter your two favorite names together was the right thing to do! And yet, I know what you mean – with so many amazing choices out there, is it really necessary to repeat? And might your daughter feel like her name is a hand-me-down, too?
Since it’s impossible to guess at your child’s future ideas about her name, let’s begin with this: Amelia Louise is a great name, and so is Louisa Avery. It sounds like that’s the name to beat.
You can see it one of two ways: maybe Louisa feels a little like a hand-me-down or an afterthought. But maybe it’s a name that connects the sisters and they love both having that link.
So let’s try this: imagine you cannot use Louisa at all. Maybe another family member or dear friend has just named her daughter Louisa. Or your husband decides he’s not on board.
Now, what do you choose?
From your current list:
- My sense is that most Lucilles go by Lucy – particularly in this generation. Amelia and Lucy are great together, but do you like Lucy?
- Family names can be great choices, and Rose/Anna have plenty of potential. But it sounds like none of the combinations you’re considering have felt quite right. Would you consider something like Anna Rosalie? Annabelle Rose? Annika Rose?
- Penelope is a great choice. Amelia and Penelope both hit the vintage-but-modern note. Penelope Rose, maybe?
Still, I think it’s worth considering some fresh options – and speaking of vintage-but-modern, let’s aim for that style.
A SISTER FOR AMELIA LOUISE
Another classic. It sounds just like a sister for Amelia, but it’s far less common.
As vintage as Amelia, Dorothy is the girl who traveled over the rainbow to Oz – and back. It has a similar rhythm to Penelope.
Maybe a little more aggressively vintage than Amelia or Louisa, but with sweet built-in nickname Edie.
Like Amelia, an antique favorite currently near the top of the popularity charts in the US.
Another obvious match for Amelia, and one that reminds me of Lucille on your current list of maybes.
Margaret is the buttoned-up classic; Margot is still traditional, but with a little extra spark.
Since Rose names are on the table, would Rosalie appeal?
Another name in the same category as Evelyn. It’s tailored but still nicely feminine.
So yes, you can use Louisa Avery if it still feels like your favorite name, even after all of these suggestions. There’s absolutely no way of knowing if your daughter will view it as a hand-me-down or a sweet shared connection … and just because she feels one way at 8 or 11 or 14 doesn’t mean she’ll still feel that way as an adult.
But if you’d rather start fresh?
Overall, I really do like Penelope from your list. From my list, I think Evelyn is my favorite. Would something like Evelyn Roseanne be an option?