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Name Help: A Sister for Lily

August 21, 2020 By appellationmountain 25 Comments

Name Help: Sister for LilyName Help is a series at Appellation Mountain. Every week, one reader’s name questions will be discussed.

We’re relying on thoughtful comments from the community to help expectant parents narrow down their name decisions. Thank you in advance for sharing your insight!

Kayla writes:

We named our daughter Lily after my husband’s grandmother. His grandma was very important to both of us, even though I only knew her briefly. As soon as we knew we were expecting, we knew we’d name a girl Lily.

Now we’re pregnant with another daughter and we agree on nothing.

There are no other family names on his side that he’d like to use, and I don’t have enough of a relationship with my family to even consider it.

My sister keeps pushing for me to use something from our side to be “fair,” but I feel like any of the names we’d use are people I don’t want our daughter to be like anyway, even if I liked their names.

But that leaves us with names we just kind of like, and that doesn’t seem like enough either.

Names we’ve discussed: Maya, Mila, Scarlett (but is it too different compared to Lily?), Eliana (I think this is too long and I don’t want Lily and Ellie), Emmaline/Emmalynn (not sure how to spell it), Aurora (he likes, I’m not on board).

Her full name is Lily Haven, and our last name sounds like Tom-plus-son. Haven sort of popped into my head a few weeks before she was born when we realized we hadn’t figured out a middle name, and it clicked. Exactly like with Lily!

Please read on for my response, and leave your thoughtful suggestions in the comments.

Dear Kayla –

Congratulations on your new daughter!

I think there are two separate ways to look at this.

WIDEN YOUR SEARCH FOR MEANINGFUL NAMES

First, it sounds like you’d be open to finding a family name … there just aren’t any family names (or family members) that inspire you. (And that’s completely fine!) But maybe there’s something from your personal history, or your relationship with your husband?

The name of a favorite restaurant, the street where you lived when you were first married, a song/movie/book that means something to you both? Or maybe, if there’s no obvious name waiting, there’s something that could inspire a name: the season of your wedding, maybe? Or a place you visited together?

Because if you can make the name about your life together? Then it’s an instant family name, no extra layer of generation required.

If there are some ideas, but they feel too bold as a first, tuck them away as possible middle name options.

OR MAYBE LET IT GO

If all of that seems artificial – or if you’ve already ruled out naming your daughter for 43rd Avenue or Applebee’s or Thor: Ragnarok – then there’s another, equally valid, path.

Let’s find a name that you just plain love.

Because while Lily resonates with meaning, it sounds like you love the name, too. Right?

Even if it wasn’t the name of a loved one, Lily might’ve made it on to your list anyway. That’s the best case scenario, but it’s tough to repeat.

So let’s look for some names like Lily – feminine, traditional, nearly classic but not quite, and vintage without feeling too antique.

ALICE – A storybook name with plenty of strength.

CLARA – Undeniably pretty, with the same vibe as Lily – but a completely different sound.

ELIZA – Eliana does seem a) too long and b) likely to cause spelling headaches. Elena sidesteps the first issue, but maybe not the second. That brings us to Eliza, which I think substitutes beautifully for Eliana.

EVELYN – Emmeline and Emmalynn do raise questions about spelling and pronunciation, but how about Evelyn?

GEMMA – An Italian name meaning jewel, relatively uncommon in the US, but very compatible with Lily.

MAE – A sweet, springtime mini name that reminds me of Maya and Mila, but feels like an even better match with Lily.

NORA – Like Lily, a vintage name completely at home in the twenty-first century, feminine and strong.

STELLA – There’s something sparky about Stella. And if Lily is a flower, well, Stella is a star.

I’m particularly drawn to Stella, as it seems like it might substitute for Aurora, and Evelyn because it fixes the spelling problems of Emmeline/Emmalynn.

But Clara is my favorite with Lily, as well as with your surname.

If no creative middle names come to mind, may I suggest:

  • Austen – Lily Haven + Clara Austen
  • Blaze – Lily Haven + Clara Blaze
  • Blue – Lily Haven + Clara Blue
  • Dove – Lily Haven + Clara Dove
  • Juniper – Lily Haven + Clara Juniper
  • River – Lily Haven + Clara River
  • Scout – Lily Haven + Clara Scout
  • Winter – Lily Haven + Clara Winter

But I feel like I’m missing lots of great combinations. That’s where you come in!

Readers, what would you name a sister for Lily Haven?

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Comments

  1. Iris says

    August 25, 2020 at 7:39 AM

    I think there is the obvious choice of Kayla! It fits the preferred sound and it’s a family name.
    Other options are Amelia, Chloe, Isla and Emma.

    Reply
  2. Boone161 says

    August 25, 2020 at 1:49 AM

    Emma Kate!
    Lily and Emma
    Lily Haven and Emma Kate

    I love the idea of passing your name by association (Kay —> Kate) and Emma-no-line seems a perfect sweet spot. You both like it, short and feminine, and a sweet sister to lively Lily.

    Reply
  3. Kate says

    August 24, 2020 at 4:07 PM

    Lily Haven is a beautiful combo! Here’s an idea to connect your new child to Grandma Lily: Susanna means lily. Plus, it picks up the -a ending of your first name, which is a family name, too. Lily and Susanna sound great together and you could tell both your daughters about the remarkable great-grandmother they are named for.
    And if Haven appealed as a middle the first time, maybe Solace works for a second daughter’s middle?
    Congratulations on your new daughter!

    Reply
    • appellationmountain says

      August 25, 2020 at 3:07 PM

      Kate, that is BRILLIANT!

      Reply
  4. KA says

    August 24, 2020 at 6:28 AM

    The name you pick will become a “family name.” That’s how I thought about it when I didn’t use a family name on my 2nd (after using one with my 1st). What you name your daughter is adding names to the pot of family names and someone somewhere down the line might choose it for their baby and think of your daughter and the family you built.
    If you have a complicated relationship with your family, a name without that baggage is a gift to your child—and to the list of “family names” future parents can consider.
    Just something to think about—
    Congratulations on your new daughter!

    Reply
    • ab says

      August 24, 2020 at 10:59 AM

      What a beautiful perspective!

      Reply
  5. X says

    August 24, 2020 at 3:05 AM

    Oh, I love Clara River/Dove/Austen and I think Gemma is a indeed a dear!
    Other suggestions:
    Vera
    Verna
    Juno
    Cora
    Willa
    Iris
    Blythe
    Lana
    Clio
    Claire
    Noelle
    Thora
    Theia

    Other middles:
    Arden
    Wisteria
    Afton
    Adair
    Lark
    Seren
    Amarantha (means unfading)
    Bronte

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  6. Janine says

    August 23, 2020 at 10:28 PM

    Scarlett!

    Scarlett and Lily remind me of the fairy tale Snow White and Rose Red.

    Or maybe Rose? Are Lily and Rose too floral? I think they’re lovely together.

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  7. ab says

    August 23, 2020 at 12:48 AM

    I like Lily with:

    Claire
    Faye
    Grace
    Iris
    Isla
    Julia
    Kate
    Maisie
    Pearl
    Ruby
    Sophie
    Violet

    It doesn’t work with all the names I’ve suggested, but I like Bliss as a middle name.

    Reply
  8. Kirstin G says

    August 22, 2020 at 12:34 PM

    Great suggestions by Abby! I’ve had a similar experience of letting go of the family name idea after my first daughter, whose family-inspired middle name just happened to work a number of levels. I love the suggestion of finding meaning and inspiration instead of holding yourself to a category. Some of these have been listed in other comments, but to to second the names, here are some suggestions:

    Audrey
    Ivy
    Ruby
    Eloise
    Olive

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  9. Emily says

    August 22, 2020 at 12:16 PM

    I love the suggestion of Clara!

    Others I’d add to the list:

    Mabry Dove

    Chloe Ember

    And the middle name that keeps popping up into my head but I’m not sure which first name- Melody.

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  10. Anchors_and_Whales says

    August 22, 2020 at 9:11 AM

    Because Lily and Mila have some very similar sounds, I think they might be either too close or just right. My pick, though, is Scarlett. I think it’s great with Lily, and that -et ending sounds pleasant. They’re both sort of color names, which can tie them together. My only possible concern would be that the Bible says, though your sins be as scarlet, they’ll be washed whiter than snow, which might make Scarlett feel like she’s the undesirable one and Lily, with the white reference, is the best. If that’s not a concern, I think the names themselves go really well together.

    Reply
  11. Em says

    August 22, 2020 at 4:22 AM

    Also Isla might be a good liquid name for you.

    Reply
  12. Em says

    August 22, 2020 at 4:20 AM

    What about Aurelia as an alternative to Aurora…could use the nickname Aria or just go with Aria from the get go.

    Maybe you’d like Emma or Emmy if you like Emmeline?

    Lastly, what about Ruby?

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  13. CA says

    August 22, 2020 at 3:31 AM

    Great suggestions (in the article and comments!). I really love Clara with Lily – so that has my vote. I also agree that Scarlett works well with Lily.

    One more suggestion is to consider your family heritage – do you have Irish, Nigerian, Peruvian, etc. heritage? If you feel some connection to that (or if you’re even interested in fostering such a connection), look for names from that category. This could even be more recent / local – does your family (or just you!) have a strong history in Pennsylvania or Nebraska, etc.? Look for names of historical figures from the area. Then it isn’t about a particular person, but it’s about where you (and of course your new daughter!) come from.

    Good luck!

    Reply
    • CA says

      August 22, 2020 at 3:41 AM

      To add to the above (and, of course, Abby’s suggestion), you can also consider literary/artistic/political/scientific/etc. connections to a place. I’ve heard Antonia used to honor heritage in Nebraska (My Antonia), for example. There is probably just about an endless source of options if you approach it that way. Then you still get that meaningful connection to your personal/family history with perhaps an even more positive association (ie, connecting to a historical figure/event/development that you admire).

      Reply
  14. keats says

    August 21, 2020 at 10:45 PM

    I love Clara Wren with Lily Haven. Equal parts tradition and meaning. Spare yet liquid. Best of luck!

    Reply
  15. Shaina says

    August 21, 2020 at 6:28 PM

    I think another flower name would be lovely! Calla maybe, as a nod to Kayla? Rosa? Marigold called Mari? Iris, Penelope called Poppy?

    Reply
  16. Sara L. Uckelman says

    August 21, 2020 at 5:47 PM

    OOOH OOOH. If you like “Eliana” but don’t want “Ellie”, how about “Liana”! (My own middle name, which my parents gave me when I was 5ish, so I’m partial to it. 🙂 )

    “Lily” and “Liana” would make a great pair of siblings.

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  17. Jaime says

    August 21, 2020 at 4:09 PM

    I’d def recommend finding a mn with some sort of special significance. Maybe even your first or middle or maiden name? Or Kay as a previous poster suggested?

    I think Abby has a ton of great suggestions, esp Nora, Stella, Gemma and Mae.

    A few additional ones that I like for you:

    Phoebe
    Juliet
    Margot
    Daphne
    Maisie
    Vivien
    Claire
    Chloe
    Ivy
    Audrey
    Ainsley
    Zoe
    Sophie
    Gwendolyn
    Marnie
    Helen
    These
    Nina

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  18. BSharp says

    August 21, 2020 at 1:13 PM

    May I suggest naming her after you? If you want a twist on Kayla, Kay makes a great middle name. Actually, it was on my list as a first name. Kay Tomsin. Maia Kay Tomsin. Clara Kay Tomsin.

    I notice you seem to gravitate to ‘eh’ and ‘ah’ sounds this time, nice round flowing names with vowel emphasis. (As opposed to something crisp and consonanty like Kirk or Constance.)

    With Eliana, Emmeline, and Mila on your list, one name leaps to mind: Emilia. Pronounced Em-MEEL-ia, the one I know is nicknamed Mila. Emilia Kay Tomsin. It’s a historic name with sweetspot popularity.

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  19. Megan says

    August 21, 2020 at 10:54 AM

    Clara, Eliza, Gemma, and Stella all sound adorable with Lily. Stella Blaze or Stella Blue? Swoon.

    What do you think of Aurelie instead of Aurora?

    If honor names aren’t going to work out, maybe name your kids to really tie together, if that make sense.

    I think Luna would be cute with Lily, if you don’t mind matching initials. My first thought is stargazer lilies, which bloom at night and track the moon across the sky.

    I also like Bellaflor (nn Belle/Bella/Birdie) and Calanthe (nn Callie) if three syllables isn’t too long. Both mean beautiful flower, the first being Latin, the second being Greek. Sisters Callie and Lily instantly bring to mind the calla lily. Also, Calanthe is also a genus of orchid.

    Some other names that would go thematically:

    Paloma/Dove/Dovie
    Kit/Kittie/Catherine
    Phoebe
    Renee

    You could also google coplant lilies for a list of flowers that grow well with lilies. There are some pretty options. I personally love Lavender with Lily.

    Reply
  20. eirlysgwenllian says

    August 21, 2020 at 10:52 AM

    Lily Haven, what a nice combo. I don’t see any problem whatsoever with Lily and Scarlett.
    Abby has made loads of great suggestions, but a couple names that I think immediately of as somehow akin to Lily in style are: Caroline, Ruby, Sophie, Laurel, Louisa.

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  21. Renée says

    August 21, 2020 at 10:05 AM

    I think Scarlett works just fine with Lily! Actually I like it a lot. Both word names, both starlet names. But if that doesn’t do, I agree with Abby to reach farther into what would be a meaningful name to you.

    Reply
  22. Emma says

    August 21, 2020 at 8:34 AM

    Lily Haven & Clara Scout! What an adorable pair! By far my favorite of Abby’s suggestions. =)

    These come to mind:
    Sophie
    Tess
    Vivien
    Daphne
    Adele
    Margot
    Cora
    Eden
    Mia
    Kit

    Reply

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